In this country, breasts are considered sexual objects, and because so many mothers in the previous generation bottle-fed their babies, lots of people have never even seen a mother nursing a baby, and therefore the idea of a woman nursing in public can be upsetting to many people.

I feel strongly that the best way to change this is for women to nurse openly, comfortably, and modestly in public, so that people (especially children) can see that breastfeeding is the 'normal' way to feed our babies.

With more and more mothers nursing these days, the tide is beginning to turn. We are nursing our babies whenever they need to eat, meeting their needs wherever we happen to be. We are backed by the scientific evidence that breastmilk is the superior infant food, and the knowledge in our hearts that we are providing our little ones with the best possible start in life. Breastfeeding is not an excretory function, and there is no reason to hide when you feed your baby. How would you like to eat your lunch in a public restroom?

There has been legislation passed in some states making it illegal to harass a mother who is nursing in public, as well as laws exempting baring your breast to feed a baby from indecent exposure penalties. While it is sad that we have to have such laws, it does mean that the rights of nursing mothers are being upheld. Here are some tips to make it easier to nurse discreetly, no matter where you are:

• Have a positive attitude. Remember that you have every right to feed your baby when he is hungry, and you have no reason to be apologetic.
• Find a comfortable spot, whether it's on a bench or sitting down in the corner behind some racks of clothes. Create your own 'privacy zone'. If you are with a companion, have them position themselves to create more private space for you. Turn away from the people around you while you get situated, then turn back around. Look up from your baby once he starts nursing. If you aren't looking down at him, most people will think he's just sleeping. You may want to read a magazine or book. If someone approaches you, meet their eyes and smile.
• Wear two piece outfits, or clothes with nursing slits. When you pull up your top to nurse, the fabric covers the top of your breast, and the baby covers the rest. When you nurse at home, you lift your clothes away and then bring your baby in close. When you nurse in public, do the opposite. Bring him close to you first, then open your clothes.
• Carry a blanket to throw over the baby once he settles down and starts nursing.
• Pay attention to your baby's hunger signals. Nothing attracts more attention that a crying baby. Everyone in the building will stare disapprovingly at you until the crying stops. Try to find a spot to nurse when he first starts getting fussy, rather than waiting until he is screaming.
• Practice discreet nursing in front of a mirror, or have your partner watch you. Believe me, he will tell you if anything is showing, because he doesn't want any strangers to see your breasts.
• Nursing a tiny baby in public is easier than nursing a wiggly toddler. With older babies, you can begin to set limits and negotiate. Toddlers can learn that they can't pull your shirt up or play with the other breast while they are nursing, and they can also learn that they may have to wait for their feeding. Saying "You can have num-nums (or whatever your little one calls it - my babies called it 'milky-side'), when we get to the car, but not right now" is reasonable when you are standing in line at WalMart. Toddlers are not always happy with the limits you set, but you have to be firm, unless you are willing to nurse on demand and have your shirt pulled up in the most embarrassing places whenever your baby feels like it.
• When you go shopping, try to nurse in the car before you go into the store. Look for nursing spots when you go inside - locate lounges or stores with areas set aside especially for nursing. You may want to try a baby sling. You can nurse while you're walking around, and babies love to ride in them.
• At the beach or pool, throw a beach towel over you or wear a cover-up that can be pulled up from the bottom. With most swimsuits, it is almost impossible to nurse without pulling your whole breast out. If you spend a lot of time at the pool, buying a swimsuit made especially for nursing is a good investment.