I am having a miscarriage right now, but I am pretty sure we'll try again.
I agree with the fact that telling aquaintances (sp?) was the hardest part, and I am glad my friend did that for me. I just did not want to see the sorrow on their faces.
However, if DH and some good friends or my mom didn't know, I would not have been able to cope. I needed to be able to talk to them to deal with it.
I thought about not telling anyone until it becomes obvious, not even DH, but if I do miscarry again, not only do I have to tell him why I am so upset, I also have to tell him I lied.
I know for sure I won't tell the boys until I have a healthy ultrasound with a beating heard. They sure don't have to deal with it again.
Unfortunately I took them to the ultrasound where they found out something isn't right, and they were there the entire time when everything unfolded. I still wish I could have spared them that.
But I will tell my mom and DH as soon as I find out, and good friends a little later. Other people can figure it out when I show, or when everything seems to be fine.