How ironic that you posted the day I was in the process of losing Madeline.
So far, I have mostly leaned on my DH and my very best friend. I haven't spoken much to my pastor, but he came to visit a couple of times while I was in the hospital.
Sometimes the best counselor is the one you married since they are experiencing the same loss. My biggest problem I had and still have at times is when people asked me when I got pg with Camryn, if she was my first child. People will still ask if she's my only child. I just tell them that we have an angel in Heaven that would be almost 3 right now.