It has only been 4 months since my daughter was stillborn but people are already asking me when I am going to try to get pregnant again.
I'm not sure if I am and I don't really know how to say that.
Asher was not my first pregnancy and she was not a planned pregnancy but people just assume that after losing a baby you automatically will want to not replace but fill the missing spot in your family.
Without sounding like I didn't want Asher or that I am happier without her, I want people to understand that a 3rd child wasn't in my plans for my life and my plans haven't changed.
Does anyone understand all my babbling and know a decent way to express this to people?
I'd love to be the ideal mother but I'm too busy raising my kids.
Haley Olivia 8-17-96 ~ Zachary Tyler 4-30-01 ~ Asher Mackenzie born an angel 2-26-03 ~ Brenna Grace 5-4-06
I agree that it is diffucult to explain to others why you have not try to concieve again. People naturally assume that you want to have another baby when it may not be the case.
For me I have had the opposite approach with family and friends when I lost my baby before Michael was ever conceived. Everyone did not know what to say and I heard little about everyone's babies in my presence. No one was asking me when I was TTC again.
Tim and I have put off plans for TTC until Michael fully recovers from his skull surgeries and until we can afford it but my family is agianst me getting pregnant again because they are worried we will have another special needs baby on our hands. Regardless of what the outcome would be when and if we had another baby I would love my baby special needs or not.
I wish I had an easy answer for you, but I would say "I am leaving it in Gods hands and He will know when you are ready
Seriously no one should be asking you when you are planning the next baby. I mean I get ticked when people ask me when we are having another baby. There are numerous reasons people shouldn't ask that question!
So I would say mind your own business. But Sandra's we are leaving it in God's hands is great.
I agree with those that say it is none of anyone's business. I know I hate it when people ask me "So when are you going to have children?" or something similar. Or "Are you pregnant yet?" I know a girl from high school that everytime she talks to me she asks me "So...any news yet?" I get really po'd when she asks me that...next time she asks me I'm going to tell her we are not trying anymore and that is the end of the story. Period. I want her off my back. Sorry I'm rambling in your post.