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Do or Have you ever asked your child/children if you are a bad mommy?

post #1 of 12
9/17/04 at 10:54pm
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I have a really bad habit of asking Lexi if she thinks I am a bad mommy. I know I shouldn't but I just continue to do so. I am so insecure b/c she is going back and forth and I just know (well think I know) she is going to want to be with her daddy over me. It really scares me and worries me constantly. I want to be a good mommy. And the days that I don't get to play with her much or I fuss too much I feel like she is going to hate me and not want to be with me anymore. Of course she answers that sometimes I am a good mommy and that makes me cry. I know that she probably gets mad at me when I fuss and I know that is what she is talking about. But why do I have to keep asking that question?!? I am tired of being fearful of these things. I love my baby girl so much. I just want her to be happy with me.
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post #2 of 12
9/18/04 at 12:10am
I ask Rach once in a while just to kid around and she always says Yes.
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post #3 of 12
9/18/04 at 12:11am
Diana.
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post #4 of 12
9/18/04 at 12:29am
Diana I know you are trying to do your best other wise you would not post it here.
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post #5 of 12
9/18/04 at 11:11am
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Thank you!!!!!!!!!

Annie, everytime I read one of your replys I start to feel all !!!

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post #6 of 12
9/19/04 at 1:34am
Diana your a good mommy everyone had their days and Alexis is probably a little confused about going back and forth so you should expect that kind of response out of her. So dont' worry about it ok!!
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post #7 of 12
9/19/04 at 11:49pm
Diana I just care.
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post #8 of 12
9/20/04 at 1:58pm
Your a wonderful mommy, Diana. Bad mommies don't care if they do a good job or not. I know a lot about this subject? I felt this way too until Maree asked me these questions?

1. Is your dd afraid of you?
2. Is she covered in bruises you caused by whipping or hitting her?
3. Is she well fed and clothed?
4. When she asks for a cookie do you..
a. Hit her with your fist and shout?
b. Say "you are fat enough already you little b!tch!"
c. Let her have one after she eats her dinner

I can't remember every thing Maree said, but it was good. I hope you start feeling better soon.
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post #9 of 12
9/20/04 at 3:52pm
I think it natural for us to want to know what they are thinking. Desi is to small for that ? but I do ask her if she loves me. Yesterday when I asked her if she was mad at mama she said yes, of course that was after I had to comb her hair.....
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post #10 of 12
9/20/04 at 7:09pm
I have never asked the kids, but Ally has told me plenty of times what a mean mommy I am. Usually right after she gets into trouble for something!
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post #11 of 12
9/20/04 at 7:13pm
Jared just gives me the "frown" - and it's usually after I've told him no on something !

Diana, you are an AWESOME mommy !! And don't ever let anyone tell you any different !!
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post #12 of 12
9/20/04 at 11:30pm
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Your a wonderful mommy, Diana. Bad mommies don't care if they do a good job or not. I know a lot about this subject? I felt this way too until Maree asked me these questions?

1. Is your dd afraid of you?
2. Is she covered in bruises you caused by whipping or hitting her?
3. Is she well fed and clothed?
4. When she asks for a cookie do you..
a. Hit her with your fist and shout?
b. Say "you are fat enough already you little b!tch!"
c. Let her have one after she eats her dinner

I can't remember every thing Maree said, but it was good. I hope you start feeling better soon.

Thanks so much for sharing that with me!! That did make me feel better!!!

You guys are wonderful!!!! THE BEST!!! I luv ya'll.
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