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As a step mom, would you ever volunteer at their school/preschool?

post #1 of 16
9/17/04 at 11:01pm
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I am just curious... Angela hasn't volunteered as far as I know. But I got to thinking about it and I don't know how I would feel.... Would you want to be able to do that?
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post #2 of 16
9/18/04 at 10:53am
I am not a step mom nor do I have one (well Kev has one but anyway) I think it would totally dpend on how involved she was in my childs life and how well she and my child got along. IF they get along great - then of course i would let her - especially if I couldn't for whatever reason.
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post #3 of 16
9/18/04 at 10:59am
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Good point Karen....

I think it wouldn't be a huge deal as long as I got first option to go.... I don't know that Angela and I would do well on a field trip together... we would probably get along but.... KWIM
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post #4 of 16
9/18/04 at 8:44pm
I've kinda thought about it since i have more free time now just so she knows that we are involved cause she could use that in court against us but I havent' done it yet so it doesn't look like i will.
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post #5 of 16
9/18/04 at 11:55pm
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as long as you talked to her and she was fine with it i think you should heather... it would give you something fun to do...
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post #6 of 16
9/19/04 at 1:17am
i'm not a step mom and i don't have one involved, but i think that as long as i was given first opportunity it would be ok. specially as a working mom a step mom is better than no one!
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post #7 of 16
9/19/04 at 1:29am
I'm kinda iffy about it cause i'm really fon dof school people cause they think they are better than everyone else,
example...my cousein is a teacher now and whenever i go up to the school she acts as though she doesn't even know me....
Diana ----(Rays wife)
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post #8 of 16
9/19/04 at 1:22pm
I'd probably just make it known to the teachers that if my child needs something that they still come to me and not her just beacuse they know her better.

I want to be involved in my kid's school, not someone else but if I couldn't and my child genuinally liked their step mom then yeah I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as I get asked first!
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post #9 of 16
9/19/04 at 5:48pm
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Heather I wouldn't worry about her or anyone else... I know how fond Stephanie is of you and I am sure she would enjoy you there. Of course I don't know if you would be comfy asking her mommy if you could?!?!?!

Definately agree with you Wendy!!!
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post #10 of 16
9/19/04 at 5:51pm
If my stepmom would have should up I would have Ran Far Far Away and been pissed off!
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post #11 of 16
9/19/04 at 11:10pm
Christian is cool with me being involved with whatever he does. I don't really know what his mom thinks(not that she even calls anymore), and I really don't care.

If things were different....we lived closer to her, and she actually cared about her son, then I would definitely be respectful about those type of things.
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post #12 of 16
9/20/04 at 11:18am
Yep, all the time...but she also lives with us....I've also even been to a parent teacher conferance when she lived with her mom and Adam wasn't available to go...yeah it p!ssed her off but oh well...She never wanted to have anything to do with Chelsey's school until I started doing stuff with her.
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post #13 of 16
9/20/04 at 12:57pm
I think it all is based on the situation. If the "mom" wasn't able to be involved due to work, transportation, etc. then I think it is something the two should talk about to possibly have the "step-mom" volunteer. If the "mom" were involved in the school, then I think it would be better to become involved in another aspect of the child's life (i.e. soccor, dance class, etc.). Like I said, I think it is more depending on a case by case basis and should be a mature, mutual decision by both.
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post #14 of 16
9/20/04 at 11:34pm
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Your situation is completely different too Tara and I understand yours. Mine is so ify these days it is driving me batty. Tho she hasn't signed up to volunteer but I do HOPE that if she does want to she will talk to me about it first. As long as I get first option on field trips and such I don't mind letting her volunteer some too!!!
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post #15 of 16
2/19/09 at 11:22pm

Re: As a step mom, would you ever volunteer at their school/preschool?

I've often harbored dreams of being a PTA mom, and now I am one, for my 6-year-old step-daughter. I never asked for permission to do so because given the situation, I wasn't stepping on anyone's toes or intruding into uninviting territory. I love volunteering at her school, and contributing to the fun things she talks about when she's home. I'm sure that, from time to time it irritates her bio-Mom, but there's nothing stopping her from doing the same thing if she wanted to. Wanted being the pivotal term here. In other situations, perhaps discussing it first would be better, but in my case I think things work out fine.
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post #16 of 16
2/19/09 at 11:33pm

Re: As a step mom, would you ever volunteer at their school/preschool?

to Baby U! I grew up in Kansas! It's great what you are doing. I'm sure your sdd really appreciates having someone who cares about her in her life.
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