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Holiday's How do you work them out?

post #1 of 10
9/20/04 at 1:28am
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Do you get into fight's over this or do you have a system that you have now for the holiday's?
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post #2 of 10
9/20/04 at 1:16pm
We used to have to do 3 separate Christmases - 1 @ my Mom's,
1 @ MIL/FIL, and then another when brothers got in from having to do theirs @ their IL's. Now, it's down to 2 - MIL joins us
@ Mom's on Christmas Day, and then she joins us again when
brothers come in.

Now if my SIL ever comes back in from VA for Xmas, I'm sure this will change, but only for that year !
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post #3 of 10
9/20/04 at 2:05pm
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We use to do my Dad's and my In laws, not anymore. We go to the inlaws if we want to, which we do and then the rest of Christmas is for us, my family now. If anyone wants to be with us, come on over to our house. No fighting but man made us all a wreak with nerves.
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post #4 of 10
9/20/04 at 8:25pm
Normally, we go to my parents in November and celebrate Thanksgiving and Christmas there. Then we stay here and go to Rick's parents for Christmas. Plus we have a present exchange with one of his sister's 2 days before (they live in Dallas). Then on Christmas Eve, we do a lasagna dinner and all of our friends come over to exchanges gifts with the kids. Then a bunch of them go to church.

This year will be different. My parents are ging to NJ to see my grandparents, since Grandpop has cancer and they aren't sure how much longer they will be around. They are in their late 70's. We are going to my sister's in Amarillo for Thanksgiving, which will be nice. I haven't seen my nephews in years and I can't wait to meet my great-nephew!
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post #5 of 10
9/21/04 at 1:44pm
My family lives 1200 miles away, so luckily it's not much of an issue.

We have our little family Christmas (just us), which ends with my MIL coming over for dinner usually.. then we have the gigantic family Christmas (all siblings and their kids) and then we have one with DH's dad, then one with DH's aunt, so that we can have time with Grandpa.

Politics. It's ALL politics.
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post #6 of 10
9/21/04 at 4:38pm
We do breakfast at my house in the morning - all my family comes - then late lunch/early dinner at his bro's house - all his family. New Years is always at my aunt's. We used to run around like crazy until I started the breakfast idea. Saves alot of footwork for us!
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post #7 of 10
9/21/04 at 5:23pm
Christmas day we don't go anywhere. The grandparents are invited up to see the kids with their new toys and to exchange presents, but we don't go anywhere. I always hated having to leave my toys to go places for the day on Christmas and "asked" Billy if he minded if once we had kids that we just stay home that day. He said fine as long as I agreed that Christmas Eve the only place we would go would be mass and that we would spend the day baking cookies, watching Christmas movies, reading Christmas stories, etc. I said sure! I love spending those two days with him and the kids. We usually get together with the extended family on New Year's Eve and exchange presents.

As for the other holidays, we just play them by ear. We don't have to worry about my family for any of the holidays but Billy's sisters have their spouse's families to consider, so we just wait to see what they'll be doing and if any of them or Billy's parents want to host a get-together. If they don't, we'll either offer to do one at our house or everybody will just do their own thing. We do try to get together for an Easter egg hunt and try to see each other on Halloween.
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post #8 of 10
9/21/04 at 5:24pm
We take turns on years

like this year we spend Thanksgiving with my parents, 2 days before Christmas we go to my parents house for dinner and to exchange gifts, Christmas Eve with his parents, and Christmas day we get up and drive to Cleveland to be with my grandparents, and aunts & Uncles, and my parents also come up.

then next year we will have thanksgiving with his parents, 2 days before Christmas with my parents at thier house, Christmas Eve is just us and we go to church, Christmas day with his family, and then go to Cleveland the next weekend.

It sounds like a mess but has worked for us for going on 5 years now, and usually keeps everyone happy.
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post #9 of 10
9/22/04 at 10:54pm
we go to my mom's first and then later that night go to the IL's get together.
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post #10 of 10
9/23/04 at 7:26pm
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Sounds like each of you have thought of how to take care of this problem.
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