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post #1 of 18
9/22/04 at 10:18am
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treat each grandchild differently in your family? Like it is obvisous(sp?) which grandchild is the favorite. How do you handle it? What do you do?
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post #2 of 18
9/22/04 at 10:20am
Nope. Seems like everything's pretty equal on both sides of the family, so far. It will be interesting to see what happens when Lauren gets here. Especially since we live in a different state.
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post #3 of 18
9/22/04 at 10:27am
My parents treat them all the same.
My in-laws don't have much interest in my kids but worship their other granddaughter. It is sad.
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post #4 of 18
9/22/04 at 10:38am
My parents only have something to do with DD my DS feels so left out so they just dont see them anymore I will not have my kids hurt
My Inlaws are great and treat all the grandkids the same!
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post #5 of 18
9/22/04 at 12:17pm
I do feel that both my and Eric's parents choose favorites, and ours is their favorite - it is very obvious to everyone! We all know they love all the grandkids, but they show alot more attention and spoiling to Jen over all the others. I do feel bad sometimes, but what can I say to them?!
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post #6 of 18
9/22/04 at 12:44pm
I am an only child therefore my parents worship my son. Also, my mom watches my son 5 days week. He's partial to her and visversa.

Hubby's parents, the dad worships Jimmy because he's the only grandson and his mother is partial to her daughters child, my neice Jordon.

Did that make sense????

I handle it pretty well although I notice things like not getting as much affection from the inlaws.
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post #7 of 18
9/22/04 at 2:41pm
Oh this is not my favorite subject at all. Here I am the only girl to my Mother and my Father. My father get remarried and then I have a step sister and brother. Natalie lives close to me and Chris lives close to them. My father spends more time with his wife's children and her grandchildren then me and my daughter. I know people tell me all the time that is not my Dad's fault but my step mom's fault but guess what he is a adlut and he could say I like to see my daughter and only granddaughter now and then but no. My Mom, let's just say she just does not understand kids. Ali is close to Jimmy's parents and yes they spoil her because she is the only granddaughter that comes to see them or stays with them. Okay I am getting upset, this thing eats me up inside.
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post #8 of 18
9/22/04 at 3:25pm
Well, DS is the only grandchild on DH's side. So, we really don't have anything to compare it to on that side. My mom and stepdad have eight grandchildren between them. My stepsister has 4 kids, my brother has 3, and I have one. The try to treat them all equally. I have never seen any jealousy over any of the kids getting treated better or worse than the others.
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post #9 of 18
9/22/04 at 3:30pm
Dylan and Austin are the only grandkids on each side.

Although I'd like to see whats going to happen when My dad's son and his wife have their baby in January.

When my mom was alive the world revolved around Austin! LOL

Matt's mom and dad. I dunno.. I have issues with them. Matts dad thinks all Austin does is whine, and cry, and no listen. He's always ahrping on austin about stuff. Yes, They do have Austin at probably the worst time of day- 5 to 7pm and he's been up all day and playing and he's tired. But still, They raised 2 children. He knows what it's like with a tired 4 year old.

I honestly think that Ron doesn't really care for children. Unless he has some strange odd way of showing it..
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post #10 of 18
9/22/04 at 9:10pm
My mil favors her dd's dd, but my sFIL and BIL favor my dd I do not feel that my sFIL and BIL are obvious, but my MIL is. My parents treat all of their grandkids the same, but my mom has told me that she favors my sister's oldest and rhyne. So, not to be disappointed when my next doesn't get as much attention, but I just know that they will give the baby as much attention as they do rhyne.
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post #11 of 18
9/23/04 at 9:39am
My mother used to favour my eldest and her granddaughter over the twins, the granddaughter situation will never change and now that the poor things life has changed so much I am glad she has at least one person who loves her unconditionally.

As for the obvious attention she paid Greg over the other two?? I told her she was not taking Greg again until she took the little ones as well.

It wasn't perfect but it was better.

Of course he then lived with her for a couple of years and that fixed it for good
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post #12 of 18
9/23/04 at 9:45am
THis is hard...

My MIL has 4 grandkids... 3 girls and one boy. I know she has favorites with Trey. THat is her little man and Boy does Trey know how to work it with her. She loves Brittany toobut complains alot about the other two which happen to be her daughters.

My FIL and SMIL they do not show favorites at all except maybe to the older two.

My dad Does not have one picture of his grandkids up. Mine are the only two.

My mom has every picture I every gave her of the kids up. No frames even just taped up there. She does not see them as much but will once she moved out by me.
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post #13 of 18
9/23/04 at 10:13am
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Well, on my side...my brother has a boy and I have a girl. Those are the only 2 grandkids. My mother trys to be fair to both. If she buys something for Ethan then at some point later on she will get something for Elizabeth. Ethan is 6 now and he really don't like for you to hug on him...so mother just slips in a hug when she can, but Elizabeth will let you hug on her all day if you want. I guess that is the difference between being 6 and 2.

Then on DH's side...there is 3 grandkids...1 step-granddaughter, 1 grandson and 1 granddaughter. My IL's actions speak louder than words. When they see the stepGD and GS...they lite up and basicly squeals out their name with excitement. Then when they see Elizabeth...they just say Hey Elizabeth. Sometimes I want to say...don't get excited. Yes...I guess you say I feel a little jealous that my child doesn't get treated the same. That is just one of the many examples I can give. Oh by the way...my MIL had 2 boys...she has told me that she would rather have boys than girls. She shows it!!!
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post #14 of 18
9/23/04 at 1:36pm
OMG this is a sore subject with me.
On my side of the family there are 9 grandchildren and my mom treats everyone the same.
On the other hand, my dh's parents are divorced and both are remarried. DH has one sister who has 3 kids, one with special needs.
My mil ( dh's mom) spends little time with the kids ( long story for another time).
My fil and smil have a total of 12 grandchildren ( 7 of which are from my smil's kids).
There is definately a difference in how our kids are treated. Not so much in a bad way but sad. Because they take care of the grandkids on a regular basis, our kids get slighted.
Plus my smil can be a b**ch at times.
One particular time that stands out is my step sil had a party for her son at a baseball park to which my son was not included. To this day I am sure it is because of step mil not telling us because when she gets mad she will cause major problems. The really sad part is that she BRAGGED about how much fun the kids had at the ballpark RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. My bil asked me why my son was not there and I think he was shocked when I told him that Thomas( my son) was NOT INVITED.
Sorry this is long.Feels good to vent.
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post #15 of 18
9/23/04 at 1:59pm
Yes , my mom favors Ariana, because of the way she was born, so small. The other kids don't say much but I know they notice. we all just try to leave her alone about it
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post #16 of 18
9/23/04 at 4:33pm
I have to say I think they are all pretty equal.
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post #17 of 18
9/23/04 at 9:53pm
They treat them the same.
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post #18 of 18
9/23/04 at 11:57pm
well all of the other grandkids are jealous of me cause i'm the baby and the favorite but that is b/c my grand parents practically raised me and my aunt is jealous cause now Dominick is the favorite great grand child
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