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Hypothetical situation (on the flip side)

post #1 of 19
9/23/04 at 5:31pm
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I wouldn't plan on remarrying but like you said, if I found the right person, yes I might. And no, I wouldn't let them call that person dad.
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post #2 of 19
9/23/04 at 5:32pm
Oh my goodness. I have NO idea either. Would definitely have to be special & a good role model. I really couldn't say unless faced with the situation & that's something I DEFINITELY NEVER want to experience.
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post #3 of 19
9/23/04 at 5:33pm
I agree with both of you.
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post #4 of 19
9/23/04 at 6:09pm
Mike and I have talked about this numerous times. I assume I'd probably remarry, because I don't want to raise our kids alone. Obviously, he'd have to be the 2nd greatest guy in the world and be a good example for our kids. And I know it would take time

However, I would NOT let them call him dad. Mike already has a daughter that calls her stepfather "dad", and I've seen first hand how much that hurts him, so I would not allow it to happen with MY kids.
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post #5 of 19
9/23/04 at 6:28pm
i don't know.. i think if logan was comfortable calling him 'dad' then so be it. all depends on how old he is and stuff. would have to be a pretty great guy though to fill dh's shoes..
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post #6 of 19
9/23/04 at 6:44pm
I do not plan on looking at all. If it does happen, then it happens and as for the name of Dad, no like my step dad I call him Daddy Dave, have to have his name in it and that is how Alisha got the name Papa Dave for him.
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post #7 of 19
9/23/04 at 11:22pm
I would probably remarry, and it would be up to the child whether or not they wanted to call him dad. Dh calls his step father Kenny, but he is closer to him than he was his real dad.
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post #8 of 19
9/24/04 at 12:07am
I woudl remarry if I found someone whom I wanted to marry . but I wouldn't post a wanted ad.

Coming from somebody that lost her father at an early age .. I don't call my step-dad father, dad or anything. I call him by his first name. No particular reason. My sister calls him daddy or dad .. doesn't bother me at all and I don't think it would have ever bothered my dad. I KNOW it does not bother my mother. I don't understand what the big deal about it would be anyway. It's not disrespectful to my dad. It is simply what she feels in her heart that she wishes to call him ... and I might point out that it is HER decision and not my mothers decision what she calls or does not call somebody.
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post #9 of 19
9/24/04 at 12:19am
me and dh have talked about this and we've both promised that we would never remarry!! We are soulmates and we know there is not another one like us out there so we wouldn't even look, but we think that if one of us dies the other one would probably go pretty soon afterwards, when we are old that is.
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post #10 of 19
9/24/04 at 4:12am
I would not remarry so the situation would not arise.

Also my kids are so much older that I don't think the question would come up

I would not remarry bc I am not the slightest bit interested in having a sexual relationship and lets face it, a new husband would expect some nookie
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post #11 of 19
9/24/04 at 9:05am
I really don't know. I guess if the situation was right, I would. But it would take a LONG time to think it over. And I would not let my kids call someone else Dad. And I wouldn't let him adopt them. They need to know who their father was and remember him.
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post #12 of 19
9/24/04 at 9:07am
I truly believe that I would not get married again. I'm not going to get into my reasons why because this isn't the Great Debate forum.
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post #13 of 19
9/24/04 at 12:59pm
I haven't really thought about this much. I am sure, in time, I would be interested in finding a companion - but never someone to replace him. Not sure on the "daddy" issue either??!!
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post #14 of 19
9/24/04 at 1:31pm
I honestly don't know if I would remarry. I can't stand the thought of being alone or raising my kids alone but I don't know if I would ever be able to love someone in the same way I love Mike.

I wouldn't let them call him Dad.
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post #15 of 19
9/24/04 at 7:16pm
Hell ya, if I could say he could remarry then for sure I can. I know I'll have my period of alone time but then after that I'm back on the market baby. May sound mean but hey we have to live and we have needs. As for my kids calling a different man Dad, that will be up to them. I think if I find a good man and they want to then why not. But that's how a feel now who knows how I'll feel if it really happened.
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post #16 of 19
9/24/04 at 7:21pm
Which of course I hope never happens. I like the idea that we grow old together and then pass on.
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post #17 of 19
9/26/04 at 10:16pm
Well I am not married right now but I think if I was married and had child with that person it would depend first of all on my age. But I probably would remarry. And it would definately be a role model. And I wouldn't want the kids to call him dad. Even if Devin's dad or Lexi's dad passed away I wouldn't want them to call someone else dad.
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post #18 of 19
9/26/04 at 11:05pm
If something happened to my dh (god forbid) hopefully, I could find someone new to love and care about. But I don't think I would let my dd call him daddy. She has only one daddy.
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post #19 of 19
9/26/04 at 11:37pm
Would I remarry. Not for a long time. And if my children didn't like this person then NO I would not marry him.

As for daddy. Probably not, unless it was something they wanted BUT I already know that Den thinks Kelsey is going to forget him as "daddy" and that hurts so I think it would hurt to know that she was calling another man daddy even if Den was gone.

But since Den is going to live forever, this isn't an issue
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