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Would you favor 1 child over the other??

post #1 of 21
10/1/04 at 12:14pm
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My SIL favors her oldest daughter over the younger (9, and 7 1/2)
One year for Christmas she had 35 items for Kyla and nothing for Karis. My brother had to go out at the last min and shop for Karis. My Sil travels all over the world with her job and always brings something home for Kyla and nothing for Karis.
I could never even imagine doing this ~ could you??
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post #2 of 21
10/1/04 at 12:17pm
No - and I can't understand people who do.
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post #3 of 21
10/1/04 at 12:18pm
Never could do this to my kids I love them the same!
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post #4 of 21
10/1/04 at 12:41pm
OMG What makes the first one so special?

That poor youngere daughter. I couldn't even imagine. I feel terrible when I dont spend enough time with one or the other.
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post #5 of 21
10/1/04 at 1:39pm
Wow... I can't even think of anything to say... That is just horrible.

I have to admit that there are days that I enjoy or prefer the pressence of one child over another but I would NEVER do anything to make it obvious or known.
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post #6 of 21
10/1/04 at 1:43pm
Your SIL is a big meanie.
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post #7 of 21
10/1/04 at 1:53pm
That's horrible! I could never imagine doing something like that!
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post #8 of 21
10/1/04 at 2:12pm
That is horrible! I just don't understand how a parent can do something like that. I feel so bad for that poor child.
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post #9 of 21
10/1/04 at 2:37pm
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My SIL is a workaholic and her job consists of traveling for 3 weeks and of for 1. I could never do a job like that, I couldn't handle being away from my family.
Karis wont give her mother the time of day. She's a very sweet little girl and just quietly ignors her mom. Thank goodness my mom and dad live with them.
She used to buy the kids really cheep clothes and if they got a gift from The Gap or somewhere ~ she would hide it so they couldn't find it, then sell it.
My brother has since taken over the job of buying the girls clothes and he buys Gap and simular quality. (they have lots of money and can afford to dress the girls nicely)
Last spring my brother had an accident at work (he's in the Air Force) and has problems walking now and will need several operations.
SIL took Kyla and bought her a whole bunch of new outfits for school and nothing for Karis. When we were out there she gave me too bags full of clothes that I know would fit Karis.
I just don't understand how someone could be like that!
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post #10 of 21
10/1/04 at 2:45pm
I'm like Elaine, some days I prefer one child's company over another, but not b/c I don't love them, it's because of their attitude that day!

That poor little girl...her Mom is so mean!
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post #11 of 21
10/1/04 at 2:54pm
Have you or anyone said anything to her? Did you secretly give the clothes to Karis so she could wear them? If her mom is gone the majority of the time, she wouldn't really know that she had them. What do your mom and dad say about her favortism? Most importantly, what does your brother, KARIS' FATHER, have to say about it?
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post #12 of 21
10/1/04 at 7:11pm
I am with Lisa on this one. What do they have to say about this? Guess what Bonnie I have a neice that is the same way, not as bad as it was before we all conforted her about it but she tends to still do it. She has Emily and Nick and Emily is her pride and Nick was accident and she at one time treated him like that too. Burn's my butt, but we all told her how we felt and she does not do it to much around us if she does she catches herself.

I do not understand this thought's of parents, then why did they have her? Mistake or no Mistake there are other choices out there.
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post #13 of 21
10/1/04 at 7:26pm
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Originally posted by AWKSMOM
Have you or anyone said anything to her? Did you secretly give the clothes to Karis so she could wear them? If her mom is gone the majority of the time, she wouldn't really know that she had them. What do your mom and dad say about her favortism? Most importantly, what does your brother, KARIS' FATHER, have to say about it?

My brother constantly has fights with her over this. He has told her she is not allowed to buy the girls clothes or Christmas presents. He buys it all, and it seamed to take care of it. Until he had this accident and can't walk very good now.
My Mom lives with them and she buys Karis some clothes, but the problem with that is, Mom doesn't have much money and she doesn't want Kyla to feel like Granny only likes Karis. KWIM??
I don't live anywhere close to where they live and don't get to see the girls that often.
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post #14 of 21
10/2/04 at 1:16am
Omg, i'm speechless i feel sorry for the youngest daugther.

I could never do that with my kids.
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post #15 of 21
10/2/04 at 2:43am
That is so sad.
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post #16 of 21
10/2/04 at 10:30pm
No... I would never do that. That is terrible.

I have to get Devin something every time I get Lexi something (even clothing) and vise versa.
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post #17 of 21
10/2/04 at 10:39pm
That is horrible!! I love my kids equally. Yes I treat them differant bc they are differant and have been since the day they were born. I would never favor one over the other.
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post #18 of 21
10/3/04 at 12:25am
that is horrible, i would never do that!!
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post #19 of 21
10/3/04 at 9:44am
That IS completely horrible.
I can't imagine EVER doing this.
Even now, Delaney is only 4 weeks old... and I try so hard to make sure I keep everything "fair and constant" between the two of them. That's my one fear... is that one of them is going to some how, some way feel left out. And, I want to make sure I never (intentionally) do that.
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post #20 of 21
10/4/04 at 10:41pm
I can see having a preference, but to make it THAT obvious?? that is just being cruel!!
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post #21 of 21
10/5/04 at 10:17am
I personally can't see having a preference. I love both my kids equally. While I like doing certain things with each child, that's based on their personalities and has nothing to do with who I prefer or like better.
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