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Daddy has baby overnight

post #1 of 16
10/4/04 at 5:47pm
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"What is the opinion on an infant's spending time away from Mom on an overnight basis so Dad can have time and equal opportunity to bond with Baby?"
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post #2 of 16
10/4/04 at 7:10pm
like divorced or what?

I always made chad get up with rhyne in the middle of the night, we would switch nights. I think it is a good idea.
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post #3 of 16
10/4/04 at 7:45pm
Kev has never done it and I don't think he ever will. I think its fine if there is a reason that mom has tobe away at night - but to just make dad get up is wrong (unless mom is the one who works mucho hours and dad is the slacker )
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post #4 of 16
10/4/04 at 11:10pm
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Nicole no I mean like a night out for you so you get a break and Daddy can take care of the baby. Yes come home later, but let Dad take care of the child.

My DH would of had no problems at all with that. He got up with me every night for feedings. He was great about it.
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post #5 of 16
10/5/04 at 12:12am
ah, well chad doesn't mind, but I rarely ever go out
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post #6 of 16
10/5/04 at 12:27am
George gets up all the time with a new baby. He LOVES it.
He says its a chance for him to bond with the baby.
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post #7 of 16
10/5/04 at 1:36am
i've had a few 'nites out' where Al had to put logan to bed.. i think it is a wonderful thing

sometimes i think it is hard for the guys to bond because when we are home we are hovering over them to make sure they do everything 'exactly' the way that we think it should be done

if we go out they get to figure it out for themselves

oh, and do surprisingly well sometimes too
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post #8 of 16
10/5/04 at 6:37am
I can't wait until Lauren gets here. Chris will have TONS of bonding time with her on the weekends I work. This ought to be good...

Nawwww.... actually he should do JUST FINE.
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post #9 of 16
10/5/04 at 8:58am
Rich and I would alternate feedings with both the boys. That way each of us got decent sleep and each of us got to spend time bonding with them.
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post #10 of 16
10/5/04 at 12:27pm
Court has done it a few times for a few hours and he would do it again. He has no choice!
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post #11 of 16
10/5/04 at 12:32pm
Damn right they should ! I don't give Jack the choice - I flat tell him I'm going out, and it's his turn to care and feed!
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post #12 of 16
10/5/04 at 1:34pm
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Jenn that was a good idea you and Rich had.
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post #13 of 16
10/8/04 at 10:22pm
That's never happened here. And I don't think it ever will. I don't think he could handle an entire night by himself.
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post #14 of 16
10/11/04 at 3:51pm
YES YES YES!
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post #15 of 16
10/11/04 at 4:25pm
I so agree with Liz that any guy can do a great job of taking care of a baby if given a chance. The problem is that for centuries women have been raised thinking they are the only ones that are SUPPOSE to do the childrearing, and men have been raised thinking taking care of children is women's work. Not the case anymore.

Billy has had LOTS of alone time with our kids. Since they were each three months old, he's been their main caretaker considering I work full-time and he's at home with them during the day. I think it's great because it shows them that daddy can cook, clean, shop and take care of children. And Billy does a wonderful job.

And to answer the question, Billy is always telling me to go out for the evening, to go shopping, to the library, etc. to get "me" time. He knows if I try to do something at home, like read a book or take a bubble bath, that the kids will be right there. So he's always telling me to get away so I can have some quiet time without the kids.

And I do the same for him. He works hard at his job at UPS and works hard taking care of the house and kids, so he deserves time to himself. All mothers do!

And again like Liz, my kids know that in our house that mommy and daddy may do things differently, but we're both right. We just each have our own way of doing things.
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post #16 of 16
10/11/04 at 5:07pm
I would have no problem. When Brianna turned one, I had to go back to work from my maternity leave and he has been looking after her in the daytimes since then so I know he can do a good job. He tells me if I want to go out for time with the girls, it is no problem.
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