I have that feeling again...

that FIL doesn't want much to do with Elizabeth. We went to visit them the other night...Elizabeth took him a toy...he didn't say thank you to her...didn't say a word...just took it and laid it on the table next to him. He acted like it p!ssed him off or something.

Then tonight we went next door to my BIL's house...its his birthday...my MIL and FIL showed up...Elizabeth kept saying hi papaw hi papaw...FIL never acnologed(sp?) that she said anything. But when the grandson said hey papaw...he immediatly said hey connor.

I have always felt that my inlaws never wanted a granddaughter. MIL has told me before in so many words that she liked boys better than girls.

What is so sad is that Elizabeth adores my FIL...last night she asked to go see him. So I took her, but they were about to leave to go somewhere.

When I feel this way...I tell myself that I am NOT going to take her to see them...they can come see her, but that is not fair so we end up trying to see them.

Tonight FIL was high fiving the grandson...well as far as I could see he NEVER spoke to Elizabeth. MIL had to get hugs from all of the grandkids.

I just keep hearing Elizabeth saying hi papaw hi papaw in my mind and then I hear him start talking to my BIL like my child wasn't there. It just breaks my heart!

When we lived in Birmingham...I came home one weekend...I noticed that FIL was having more to do with the grandson than Elizabeth. I went home and told DH about it...he said that probably the reason is because that the grandson saw FIL more often than Elizabeth did...so he is just taken with the grandson. Well, now we have lived with the inlaws and we are about 1 mile away and things still hasn't changed...I thought they did, but they haven't.

The kicker is that if we go to them and explain how I am feeling then they will just tell me that I'm being childish...they will sarcasistly(sp?) pay attention to Elizabeth and then look at me like I have done something wrong.

Back in September I didn't take Elizabeth over there...I was kind of waiting to see if they would come over...they never did...after 3 weeks we saw them. Then for about a month or two...inlaws would go pick up the grandson from daycare because my BIL only had one car and his wife was in it. We live right next door to my BIL and the inlaws NEVER once came by to see Elizabeth...they were right next door. Sometimes Elizabeth would see them and start yelling for them. I kept telling Eric about it...one day he was over at his mom's and she had the grandson...he told her in a nice way that if she is having to bring the grandson home...she can stop and see Elizabeth anytime. So the next guess who shows up. Its like they won't come by unless we say something.

This is it...we are not going over there unless it is for the holidays...then I'll come home heart broken again, but I can't say anything because I'm childish.

My SIL is having a Southern living party...she wants me to come and I told her I didn't have anyone to watch Elizabeth because Eric works late. She said that my BIL is taking his kids over to the inlaws, but my BIL and FIL will be watching them...SIL said that I could let Elizabeth go over there. I just don't know about that because I know that Elizabeth will be gotten onto for something. She don't take toys from the grandson, but I'm afaid that if Elizabeth is playing with something that the grandson wants...then FIL will assume she took it from him and then he will make her give it to grandson. Because one day we all was outside and Elizabeth did start playing with the broom...as soon as it hit her hands...the grandson wanted it. Thank goodness for me I was watching the kids...I saw everything that went on. If Elizabeth does take toys away then yes she should be made to give it back.

Yep Lisa...you make a very good point...time to take control!

Sometimes I think my inlaws resent my mother because my mother is here every Saturday...she lives about 30 mintues from me. At least my mother is coming to see Elizabeth even though she doesn't live a mile from me. I can't go see my mother at her house because she is always here. lol

Thanks Simonne...I just might have to do that.

You know I'm not trying to be childish or anything...I just want my child to be respected...also they are the type of people that at times will say negative things...now that Elizabeth is older and understands everything you say...I am going to have to watch them with her and tell them to stop saying what they say.