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Why do I feel so guilty...HELP!

post #1 of 14
11/22/04 at 2:34pm
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The other night when I saw my MIL...we was talking about things. Then she said that soon I will want Elizabeth to go to preschool. Well, the thing is...is that I plan on teaching her...I guess to everyone I'm not good enough to do that.

Well, I feel so guilty about Elizabeth not having anyone to play with. Sometimes I want to send her to daycare...preschool just so that she will have someone to play with, but that cost money. I think I am the only person in this town that stays home with their child...so playgroups are out of the question...everyone's child already has a playgroup at daycare.

Sometimes I doubt myself as a parent...since she isn't going to the potty everyday...I feel I have failed. Our problem is is that if she has a pull up on...she pees in it because she thinks its a diaper. So starting today...she is going to wear her clothes with regular panties. Maybe this will help.

Someone please...give me some words of encouragement.!
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post #2 of 14
11/22/04 at 2:59pm
Oh Libby, don't feel bad. If there aren't a lot of playgroups, what about like Sunday School (I don't know if you attend church). That way she can socialize with kids her own age. And as far as the potty, she's only 2! Give her time... I totally think that taking her out of the pullup will help a lot. And take her to the potty every half hour or so until she gets into the habit. GL and try not to worry about the others...
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post #3 of 14
11/22/04 at 3:07pm
Yep _ i am with Dana - Don't worry about it. Lyssa didn't even REALLY attempt potty training til righ tbefore her 3rd birthday and only casue i wanted to get her in preschool.

As far as playgroups and such - I am sure theres got to be someone around. What about the Y or something (I know it cost $$ but like the one here has open gym type thingy for toddlers and its like $10 once a week) It might be something just to get out.

I felt the same way about Lys not socializing with anyone and decided I needed to get her into something.
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post #4 of 14
11/22/04 at 3:11pm
Don't worry. I'm sure you are a great teacher for her. She would probably enjoy interacting with kids her age though. Are there any Gymboree classes or community classes you can put her in. I wouldn't worry about her potty training just yet. My nephew is 3 and still isn't potty trained. Besides every child develops differently.
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post #5 of 14
11/22/04 at 3:12pm
First of all, she is only 2. The potty training thing will come, so don't beat yourself up. The more pressure you put on her, the longer it will take. I think the panties might help, because Brandon is the same, if he has a diaper on then he will pee in them. But if he has underwear on, he will tell me and he will go on the potty. He is 3.

If you want to homeschool your child, don't let anyone talk you out of it. Try going to parks and playgrounds. There has to be someone else out there who is not in daycare.

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post #6 of 14
11/22/04 at 3:21pm
don't feel bad hon. Liz is not in preschool.....we can't afford to, and are in teh process of moving, so it didn't seem practical to put her in one yet.

The only interaction with other kids she really has is on our bus....and then of course, she is stuck in her carseat. She was 1 1/2 when we started potty training and finished at 3 (probably would have been sooner had we not been on the bus).
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post #7 of 14
11/22/04 at 3:42pm
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I know she is only 2, but kids I know around here...they are a lot younger than Elizabeth and when they need to go to the bathroom...they go to the potty. And I know I don't need to compare her to other kids and usually I don't until I start feeling guilty about other things like her not playing with anyone.

As far as I know...there is not a Y around here, but I haven't looked into it. I am going to look into maybe putting her in a tumble class...I'm thinking that someone told me that they have to be 3, but I'll look into it.
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post #8 of 14
11/22/04 at 3:48pm
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Hey...I just thought of an idea. After Christmas...I thought about running an ad in the paper something like...Attention Stay At Home Moms...would you like a day out. I am offering a Mother's Day Out Program for one day a week so that you can get out and go shopping.

Or something like that...we are getting Elizabeth a swing set for Christmas so that way we can go out and play some. That would give me one day a week for kids and then Elizabeth would have someone to play with one day a week.

How does that sound?
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post #9 of 14
11/22/04 at 4:11pm
Sounds great Libby and just because your child doesn't do something exactly when someone elses does dont worry my ds was 3 years and 2 months when he was fully potty trained every kid does it at their own pace (Even my pediatrician said so) that if they are not ready you will prolong the process.
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post #10 of 14
11/22/04 at 4:48pm
I think offering a Mom's day out is a great idea! I have a home day care and wish I could afford to do that instead of a daily thing. But I think it's great for your daughter to have some friends over to play and hey, you'll have some extra cash too! Don't worry at all about the potty training. I find that it's more the norm to train at 3 rather than 2yrs old.
Karen
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post #11 of 14
11/22/04 at 7:33pm
I agree with jennifer, take her to the park or maybe someplace with an inside jungle gym? and I also agree about the potty training, rhyne was interested at 18 months and then she just started actually going to the potty by herself and she is just 30 months now. Give her time, but I do think that staying in panties all day will help, we are having that problem with rhyne and are going to start no diapers today
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post #12 of 14
11/22/04 at 7:47pm
I am in the same boat here. Kate does not qualify for Head Start because they said she is too smart and the other three preschools are religious in a weird way. I'm sure you'll be a great teacher for her. Who better to teach her things than her mommy? Sandra homeschools her son, so she may have some ideas for you. You're a great mommy, Libby.
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post #13 of 14
11/22/04 at 8:27pm
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Quote:
but kids I know around here
What I meant was kids around where we live...my friend's kids...not anyone here on the boards.
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post #14 of 14
11/23/04 at 2:22am
Everyone else has already said it.. so I'm just sending
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