Liz is being AWFUL around her brother. There times when she is really good around him, and other times.......She just choked her brother
I think it was accidental--he is wearing a hoody and she tried picking hm up using the hood on it...an dit choked him...SHe does that kind of thing all the time....if he wears overalls and is crawling along on the floor, she will try to pick him up with teh straps.....
She will not listen to me at all for anything. I can ask her nicely....I can tell her sternly....I can yell at her...nope......I can send her to her room, i can take privileges away....either it won't work at all, or if it does, it is very short lived...
I know that part of this is because there have been some major changes in our lives, and we have not been able to do as much with her and her brother as we normally do. The last couple of months have been non stop go go go....and now that we are finally in our house we are still super busy since the holidays are upon us.
I don't know what to do with her. I am afraid to leave her alone in the same room with her brother, becuase i don't know if she is going to behave with him....but i can't not stop doing the other things in the house i need to do to
I don't know what to tell you. Sounds like a bit of jealousy and attention getting behavior, but I'm sure you already knew that. Maybe one of these ladies with several children could help. 
I doubt she wants to hurt him. I wouldn't leave her alone with him until she's atleast 5. I probably wouldn't punish her for it. I'd tell her that's it's wrong and tell her not to do it again (althought she most likely will) and just make sure too have an eye on them. When you leave the room, take one of them with you even to the toilet. It's hard work, but alot easier and less heart breaking than thinking you little girl is 
