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post #1 of 17
12/17/04 at 4:11pm
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Play in your child(rens) lives?

Mine play a huge part. My kids sleep over at my mom & dads house every other Friday, they go at 5 & we pick them up Saturday around 5 pm.

My inlaws, they keep them for about 2 hours every other week, so we can go out to eat or grocery shopping etc.

My mom & dad call at least once a day & speak with the girls, My inlaws they dont really call, but we be sure to call them.
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post #2 of 17
12/17/04 at 4:17pm
Honestly, grandparents play a very small role in my children's life.



My MIL - she's just selfish. She spends 1/2 of the year in Florida, the other 1/2 up here in Connecticut. (NOT complaining about that! ha!) However, when she's up here - we see her 1-2 times. It's all about HER. (That's another story)

My parents...
My mom has ms and rarely leaves her house. She's in no condition to watch my children alone. And my father has refused to watch the kids until they were out of diapers. (Kyler is just now getting out of diapers.) So... they see my kids on holidays or when I have time to swing by there house.


I wish it was different. At least for my parents.
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post #3 of 17
12/17/04 at 4:39pm
We're not talking about this this week.
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post #4 of 17
12/17/04 at 5:05pm
Leah My parents see the kids at least twice a week now that we've moved back home.

The FIL is not allowed access to my kids because he hates me and is an unmedicated manic depressive lunatic. My MIL has seen the kids maybe 6 times ever, she's trying to see them these days, we'll see if she does....
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post #5 of 17
12/17/04 at 5:15pm
My family consists of numerous pedophiles - so none. Thank goodness. My inlaws live in Hawaii. My MIL met my dd once when she was four months old. We call back and forth and send gifts and cards. We were going to visit them for Christmas, but that didn't work out.
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post #6 of 17
12/17/04 at 5:32pm
Honestly a huge part. My parents see Christian and Kelsey once or twice throughout the week and just about everyday over the weekend.

Den's dad and step mom see them once during the week and sometimes once on the weekend.

Den's mom--never--once a year because she lives in another state and Den hardly gets vacation time.
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post #7 of 17
12/17/04 at 6:04pm
My Mom and Dad are very invovled with the kids they take them places alot and my mom talks to Kaylee on the phone just about every day. We are there pretty much every Saturday.

My Inlaws are a bunch of mentally and physically abusive lunatics. We have absolutely nothing to do with them(although that hasn't stopped them from messing with us) which sad as it is is the absolute best thing for our kids.
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post #8 of 17
12/17/04 at 6:26pm
My In-laws do a tremondous job of being fabulous... They are divorced like mine but go out of there way to let you know they love them.

Mine on the other hand I shouldn't have to try to get them to like my kids.
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post #9 of 17
12/17/04 at 7:03pm
my parents are a huge roll in Logans life, when they are around..

while i was on maternity leave they were over here every day visiting and playing with him, now that i am back to work they try to see him on my days off at least.. and in the last couple of weeks they have helped us out and babysat for us. they love it
Logan is the only grandchild within ten hours for my parents, so they dote on him as much as possible.

My MIL lives 8 hours away, she talks on the phone to Logan, he thinks he is talking to my stepmom, but she is happy when he calls her grandma.. so its all good. with her being so far away i think we will only see her once in the next year
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post #10 of 17
12/17/04 at 9:00pm
My parents play a big role in my dd's life. She sees them almost weekly (they live an hour and 1/2 away) and they dote on her and adore her (but don't go overboard and make her rotten)

My mil prefers my sil's dd, and therefore my dd gets shortchanged

my fil loves to spend time with her, but he is having medical problems and can't watch her.
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post #11 of 17
12/18/04 at 10:19am
When my Mom was alive my Mom and Dad picked Austin up almost daily from the sitters. They played a HUGE part in his life. Austin was my Mom's favorite person in the world!

Before my Mom passed away, My inlaws rarly saw Austin. Only when we went over there (they only live like 15 minutes from us).

Now that Mom is gone. Austin and Dylan are over at the IL's about 2-3 times a week.

They don't call and ask to see them or anything though. Or take them anywhere..

My FIL thinks they're a neusince (sp?) i believe.. 'nother story..
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post #12 of 17
12/18/04 at 2:27pm
My parents only live 10 miles out of town, but they both work full time. My Mom was diagnosed with Lupus in July and hasn't really come up with an effective pain-management plan yet. So she has good days and bad days, but she never knows what the day's going to be like until she gets out of bed. It makes it hard to make plans.

We usually try and get together at least once a week, but lately, it's been a couple weeks. I guess I'm a little disappointed about that, but whatever.
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post #13 of 17
12/18/04 at 2:37pm
Before Kaitlyn - Alyssa saw my parents at least once a week now honestly they haven't seen either since Kaitlyn was born - but thats becasue we were all sick and now they are doing some remodeling.

My inlaws (MIL & SFIL) don't go out of their way to see them - but wil babysit if they are free and will take Lyssa overnight too (my paretns haven't "babysat" since lyssa was a few months old - we do things but I don't ask them to babysit. their house is not kid friendly)
My FIL & SMIL only really see the kids on holidays. My FIL is a doofus and an alcoholic and almost dropped Lyssa when she was born - so we don;t go out of our way to visit with them and they are not allowed overthere without supervision.
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post #14 of 17
12/18/04 at 10:32pm
My IL's are great! They take my dd every Saturday for about 6-7 hours. They bought her a toddler bed for Christmas so she will probably start sleeping over there on Saturday nights.

My mom and dad babysit when we ask them too, but they don't have a regular time with her.
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post #15 of 17
12/19/04 at 11:54am
HUGE!! They talk to my mom everyday and see and talk to Richs parents every couple of days, and my dad and his wife once or twice a week.
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post #16 of 17
12/19/04 at 4:39pm
If they lived closer, I know they would have a huge role in Olivia's life. She just adores all of them as do they her. Now that MIL has retired, we may be seeing more of her.
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post #17 of 17
12/20/04 at 5:15am
All the grandparents absolutely adore our lil guy but because of the distance we don't see them every week.

My mom lives in Salt Lake (2 hours North)

My dad and his wife live in Alpine (1 1/2 hours North)

IL's live in Salina (2 hours South West)

We are close to our families though so I'm sure he'll talk to them a lot when he gets older.
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