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post #1 of 13
3/17/05 at 8:41am
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I have a friend that is doing this and it really bothers me and I just wondered how you would handle it....

She is divorced (for the second time) and still involved with her 2nd Ex-husband. He has moved out of state to be with his son. She is going to uproot her daughter (again) to follow him out of state to live. And will be taking her away from all her family including her dad and brother. I just think this is wrong.

But for those of you that have stepkids or are divorced....would you do this?
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post #2 of 13
3/17/05 at 9:36am
Does she have a child with him?
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post #3 of 13
3/17/05 at 10:56am
I don't think so. My DH's one ex moves all over the country with my SD and her other child following guys she think are going to take care of her. We rarely get to see my step daughter which I know just kills my dh.
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post #4 of 13
3/17/05 at 11:04am
Well, I am divorced and thankfully we had no children BUT...I don't think I would uproot my child just for the sake of chasing a man. regardless of whether they had been previously married or not. She needs to put her child first, that is very sad thepain she is causing her little girl. for you Meagan, I know that is tough to watch.
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post #5 of 13
3/18/05 at 10:05am
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They have no kids together. She has 2 kids from her first marriage and her son lives with his dad and her daughter lives with her. I am just so bothered by this because her daughter has told her she does not want to move. And this is not the first time she has done something like this.
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post #6 of 13
3/18/05 at 10:48am
I think that is really wrong. She really needs to think of her daughter first. Can the daughter maybe stay with Dad?
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post #7 of 13
3/18/05 at 9:58pm
I wouldn't do that to my children. She should try to keep the kids close to their family.
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post #8 of 13
3/20/05 at 11:05pm
i think she should give the daughter to the dad till she figures out what she wants although i would never do that at least the daughter would be better off but i dont see my ex and my daughter hasent seen him on over 7 yrs which is fine with me she has a daddy that loves and takes care of her that my opinion
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post #9 of 13
4/28/05 at 6:50pm
You know me well enough to know that I would not move. I firmly believe that despite the fact that Thad and I cannot see eye to eye on so many things, he IS there father. He and the children need each other JUST as much as I need the kids and they need me. Right now, living 15 minutes apart works! I don't believe I'll be moving any place any time soon anyway. My mother has argued with me on this so many times. She can't see how my moving over 2 hours away (to live near her) would hurt the kids (as well as stiffle me).
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post #10 of 13
4/29/05 at 10:28am
There is NO way I would move my daughter away from her father, especially to chase after a man! It is way more important to make sure that she gets time with her father who loves her.
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post #11 of 13
4/29/05 at 2:30pm
How old is her daughter? Is she old enough to just say she wants to live with dad?
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post #12 of 13
5/3/05 at 8:51am
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I think she is 13?? And there is no way the mom would let her live with her dad.
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post #13 of 13
5/3/05 at 12:03pm
At 13 if her father is willing to take it back to court, and unless he is unfit, the judge will ask her what she wants. As long as the father has means to support her and is willing and able the court at that age usually sides with the childs opinion. At least in most states. We may be facing the same issue in a couple of years, DSD wants to spend a year living and going to school here and her mom says NO, then when DH talked to her she said we would discuss it when she was 13, because she knows that we could force the issue if that is what Anna wants.
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