Well, apparently DH and FIL had a little falling-out on Wednesday night during dinner and everyone with them (our pastor and two of FIL's friends) saw it. And they knew that DH was mad and FIL was out of line. Dh has told FIL repeatedly... REPEATEDLY... not to say anything to anyone about him trying to hire DH. It is especially hard when he says it in front of our pastor, who DH is working for now. Much less anyone else that might be interested in hiring DH either for a real job or for him to do printing or graphic design or anything. Just not very tactful. Well, they're at dinner on the last night of the meeting... One of his friends was saying that he'd just hired a new music director and it wasn't going so well. DH asked who he hired, etc. It was someone DH knew and they were talking about the situation. FIL butts in and says, "Yeah, well I'm trying to get him to come work for me." (Meaning DH). DH said, "Yeah, but he can't afford me." Just kind of joking, and laughed, and kept goign with the conversation. FIL Got all mad and said "I can't afford you???? You're living in my house!!!!" Everybody just stopped talking. DH said, "You know what, don’t even bother making me an offer. I don't want it!" Bruce asked DH what all that was about. DH said that this was the way his dad always acted and that he was tired of it. He wants to talk big, but he never takes any action. DH doesn't realy want to work for his dad, but his dad just won't leave him alone. We can't just give up everything in our lives at the drop of a hat to make FIL happy. Bruce said he had heard me make some comments about not wanting to move and about how his dad treated him, and he just figured I was blowing off steam. But now he saw what I meant. Bruce said he wished they could do more for DH. So, DH gave him some ideas of things the church could do that wouldn't break the bank. FIL's two friends asked DH what the whole uproar was about and he told them about the whole situation. One of them said that the worse thing he ever did was go and work for his father. The other asked if DH felt "led" down there. DH said he liked he church and the people and it was a nice place, but that he honestly didn't feel led that way at all. And for us to give up our ministry, my job, our insurance, and everything we have, we'd be stupid. Especially if he's gonna be treated this way. Everybody agrees with DH. And that ticks FIL off. And at this point, I really don't care. It's like he wants us to say we'll move down there before they ever make an offer. And that's just stupid. HE didn’t go down there until they made HIM an offer.
And all of a sudden he's gonna use the power play of the house. And how they can't afford to keep the house anymore. I was afraid this would happen when we first moved in. THEY offered us the house. THEY decided on the terms. Now THEY don't want to abide by the rules that THEY made up. Ummm. We're paying you rent, buster~!!! You couldn't sell the stupid thing. Nobody even looked at it. We cleaned up your yard. We remodeled things. What do you want? ARGH! We can just as easily go and find another place to live! And then you'll be up a creek because you'll have two house payments and no income from the one in OH. Plus, you'll have to pay someone to cut your grass and trim your bushes and check on everything and water your flowers and so on and so forth... And you'll be stuck. As much as they may think they're helping us out, we're helping them out, too. We've spent tons of money on this house with plans to do more. And they're gonna be
about it.
If FIL would get off his high horse about the job, we could deal with him about buying the house from them. But if they can't get away from he thought that we'll come to work for them, they'll never come to a decision about the house.
Anybody got a spare room?
And all of a sudden he's gonna use the power play of the house. And how they can't afford to keep the house anymore. I was afraid this would happen when we first moved in. THEY offered us the house. THEY decided on the terms. Now THEY don't want to abide by the rules that THEY made up. Ummm. We're paying you rent, buster~!!! You couldn't sell the stupid thing. Nobody even looked at it. We cleaned up your yard. We remodeled things. What do you want? ARGH! We can just as easily go and find another place to live! And then you'll be up a creek because you'll have two house payments and no income from the one in OH. Plus, you'll have to pay someone to cut your grass and trim your bushes and check on everything and water your flowers and so on and so forth... And you'll be stuck. As much as they may think they're helping us out, we're helping them out, too. We've spent tons of money on this house with plans to do more. And they're gonna be
about it.If FIL would get off his high horse about the job, we could deal with him about buying the house from them. But if they can't get away from he thought that we'll come to work for them, they'll never come to a decision about the house.
Anybody got a spare room?
