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post #1 of 16
5/21/05 at 7:28pm
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When two family members are arguing and they say they dont ever want anything to do with one another ever again.

I dont want to take sides at all, but I know my brother was wrong on what happend.
I stayed out of this one this time because it just ends up in a big family war. My brother tried to call this morning but i wasnt home, he didnt leave a message but I know he is going to tell me all about the arguement him and mom had.
Dont you just hate being in the middle when you are not in the middle??
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post #2 of 16
5/21/05 at 8:16pm
I stay out.
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post #3 of 16
5/21/05 at 8:31pm
Say, I love you so much I'm NOT going to "take sides".

(I know, easier than done).
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post #4 of 16
5/21/05 at 8:55pm
I like LuAnn's reply. This happened recently with my mom and my MIL. As you all know, I am VERY close to my MIL, which in itself makes my mom crazy with jealousy. Well, she and my MIL are also friends, and they recently had a little tift. My mom tried her best to get me to take sides, and I finally just told her I could not do that. She was so at me. Eventually it all passed over and all is well now.
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post #5 of 16
5/21/05 at 9:13pm
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Yep that is what I am doing. I learned from the past that the he said she said thing is just awful.
I talked to my mom earlier and bascially said, it really sucks that this is going on, I hate that you two are argueing it, but it has nothing to do with me. I told her that it is stressful for me, because no one likes to see their family memebers not getting along.
If my brother calls me and he starts to tell me what is going on, I will tell him nicely, Jay, i really dont want to get involved, so please dont tell me anything.
I hate this!!
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post #6 of 16
5/22/05 at 2:41am
I hope it all works out.
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post #7 of 16
5/22/05 at 8:23am
Both of my SIL's are feuding and have been for almost 2 years. So stupid and the people that suffer are their kids. I just stay out of it and stay friendly with both of them.
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post #8 of 16
5/22/05 at 3:59pm
Jenn you and I have to be twin sisters, some how, or two peas in the pod. I am not talking to my Dad and he not to me. Corie is in the middle of it and does not want to be either. I try my best not to ask questions about my Dad or make him feel uncomfortable. He and you are right it is not fair for you to be in the middle.
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post #9 of 16
5/23/05 at 1:22pm
I just say Really? And leave it at that
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post #10 of 16
5/23/05 at 1:36pm
Billy & I are the ones that don't speak to one of his brothers. It caused a lot of problems with his parents and two of his sisters in the beginning (one sister is on our side and doesn't associate with him either) but now it's just an unspoken agreement that he just doesn't get talked about with us and we don't attend any family functions that he'll be at (there are exceptions, of course). His parents and two sisters don't accept our decision or agree with us at all, and they certainly don't respect our decision but they know better than to try and change our minds.

I guess it would depend on what they were arguing about but if it had nothing to do with me, didn't affect me or my kids in any way, I'd probably just do what everyone is saying and stay out of it. Tell them it's their fight and something you're not getting involved in.
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post #11 of 16
5/23/05 at 6:43pm
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I hope they work it out in time. My brother came by today to pay for his wifes Avon and he was fine.
I hope to leave it that way. I hope it doesnt drag on to the holidays, then what do i do?
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post #12 of 16
5/24/05 at 6:05pm
Jenn I hope they work it out too.
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post #13 of 16
5/24/05 at 6:15pm
i use to be the one always in the middle. it was always between my brother and my mom too. and of course i would take my mom side so now i get a... I TOLD YOU HOW SHE IS from my brother all the time now.
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post #14 of 16
5/26/05 at 3:12am
How's the family thing going, Jenn?
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post #15 of 16
5/26/05 at 11:15am
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Alright. Things are normal between me and my mom and me and my bro. My mom said she has seen the kids(grandchildren) and wave at them and dont wave back to her.Dont know what thats about.
Other than that it has been quiet.
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post #16 of 16
6/1/05 at 1:11pm
i agree with luann
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