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Am I being unreasonable ?

post #1 of 4
6/20/05 at 3:32pm
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Hi, I'm new here and just need someone to vent to. When I was growing up from 12 until 17/18ish and then again once I had my daughter at 23, I would babysit for my 2 nieces (now 12 and 15) all the time, as in at least once a week to give my sister a break and the oppurtunity to get out. Now I have my own daughter who is 2 and I'm a single parent trying to get my life back together and I can count on one hand how many times my sis has babysat for me and it always has to be on her terms. Now my eldest niece is old enough to babysit and has done for me quite a number of times but suddenly her social life is taking off which is great but the last two times I've arranged to go out and my niece has agreed to 'sit but has then let me down only a day or so before. I know I was never allowed to do that when I used to babysit for my sister but now it seems like its a totally different set of rules.

Also when I got togethe with my ex-fiance my sister really fell out with me and accused me of neglecting her girls. I won't lie I did see them a lot but he was my first love and he had a daughter we had a house and a life I just didn't have the time to give to my nieces anymore but when my dd was 2 months old my sis split with my bil and four months later started dating a work colleague that was over a yr and a half ago now and since that time my sister who I used to see every weekend hardly ever sees us now. I'm happy she's met someone but am I wrong to feel annoyed at her hypocrissy (sp?) ?

Sorry this was so long,

Lisa
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post #2 of 4
6/20/05 at 3:57pm
Wow. I would be upset also. If your neice offers to babysit, she should not be able to break that commitment unless it is a school issue, not just for a social life. Your sister should make her fulfil her responsibilities. As for the lack of time she is spending with your family, that is the way it always is when you are in a relationship. If it hurts your feelings, I would talk to her.
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post #3 of 4
6/20/05 at 4:26pm
yeah... i know i would get upset about the babysitting issues too... she should be made to keep her commitments

As far as the hypocrissy, I think that you should talk to your sister and tell her how you feel about it!! And we are always here for you to vent to!!
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post #4 of 4
6/20/05 at 5:14pm
Hi there Lisa and welcome, so glad you are here with us.

I agree with the ladies if your neice has made a commitment to you , she should not be able to make other plans, I find sometimes relatives take us for granted. Hope you can work something out with her. I feel you gave your sister time now they need to help you when you need it too.
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