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Told Jim she would cry

post #1 of 22
7/14/05 at 1:07am
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Went to pick up Ali from Grandma's today and I told Ali to meet me out front. Grandma was right with her. Feeling bad cause Jimmy and I are getting a divorce. I told her I was fine and I knew she cared for me and she said i love you and I told her I love her too. I don't know what to do to comfort her. I feel bad.

Maybe I am in shock, maybe I should be upset and like life is over, but I am not, I think my life is beginning again, and I am lucky to have that chance again. I know my meds help a lot and then I have all these awsome friends for support. The Baby U clan and more. I just know my marriage has been rocky since day one I joined this site.
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post #2 of 22
7/14/05 at 3:41am
It's understandable that she is upset. No matter how old we are, seeing our parent split up is never easy. She might be a little old for this, but what my mom said is that parent get divorced, kids don't. Then explained that they would better parents and better people when they were apart and that they both still loved all of us very much. I can't speak for my siblings, but that made me feel a lot better. Hope that helps.

All you can really do is be there for her and encourage her to talk about her feelings. Let her know it is ok to be sad, upset, even angry about it. But also point out the good things that will come out of this for all of you. It will probably take a while, but I'm sure that with your loving support she will come thru this just fine.
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post #3 of 22
7/14/05 at 11:09am
Hon its only normal that she is upset. Its not easy on anyone no matter how old or young they are. My parents divorced when i was 16. It was hard on us all....and even though we new it was best for everyone (my parents fought like crazy, my dad was an alcoholic and an abuser), It was still hard to seehim go.

My thoughts are with you guys hon. Give alisha an extra big from me
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post #4 of 22
7/14/05 at 11:12am
Send Alisha my love. I'm sorry she's going through such a hard time. Once school starts or she has her friends around, I'm sure that many of them will have divorced parents and can be a line of support for her.
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post #5 of 22
7/14/05 at 11:53am
No matter how old the kids are it will be hard. But remember she has you
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post #6 of 22
7/14/05 at 12:30pm
It's not going to be easy on any of you, even if you are feeling a sense of freedom now. My prayers are with you all.
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post #7 of 22
7/14/05 at 2:37pm
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Thanks everyone. It is my MIL that was crying, not Alisha, she is all for this and has wanted for some time, Alisha just never told Jim and I how she really felt. Thanks again for your support.
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post #8 of 22
7/14/05 at 2:54pm
well then for you MIL too. DId she know that this was going to happen or was it a total surprise for her?
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post #9 of 22
7/14/05 at 3:33pm
Is it Ali who was crying or Grandma? I kind of got the feeling it was Grandma... either way to you all! You are so brave and such an example to us!
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post #10 of 22
7/15/05 at 1:34am
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Like Jennifer said it is Grandma (MIL)
Michele, Jimmy told his parents, last weekend. My Mom, knows and my brother knows. If my dad finds out fine if not oh well.
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post #11 of 22
7/15/05 at 1:35am
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Oh by the way, thanks Jennifer and Michele.
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post #12 of 22
7/15/05 at 2:54am
Omigosh, Annie, I am so out of touch! I didn't even know Y'all are in my prayers.
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post #13 of 22
7/15/05 at 12:49pm
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LuAnn you are not out of touch. I did not talk about my marriage to a lot of people. Sorry I sprung this on you.
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post #14 of 22
7/17/05 at 4:25am
No apologies necessary, Annie. Gracious, you are one of the NICEST people I know!
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post #15 of 22
7/17/05 at 12:26pm
i'm sorry Mil is sad but she will learn to deal... and maybe when she sees you being happy seperately she will understand
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post #16 of 22
7/17/05 at 12:40pm
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LuAnn aww shucks.
Andrea that is so true, thanks.
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post #17 of 22
7/17/05 at 1:25pm
Ok, I missed something... to you and to Alisha!!! You have my love and support Annie
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post #18 of 22
7/17/05 at 1:40pm
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Heather, like I told others. I sprung the divorce thing on everyone. I really did not talk about my marriage on the boards to people, only certain people knew I had a rocky marriage. Jim and I are getting a divorce and I am glad you will be there to support me Heather.
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post #19 of 22
7/20/05 at 9:05am
hey i had no idea u were getting divorced. Life is hectic here too im sorry to hear abt that i hope alisha is ok send her our love and hugs and if u need to talk just let me know
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post #20 of 22
7/20/05 at 10:56am
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Thanks Tammy, I have been wondering where you have been. Hope things are okay with you and the family.
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post #21 of 22
7/20/05 at 11:07am
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post #22 of 22
7/21/05 at 1:04am
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Thanks Libby
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