I need advice from mothers of almost 4 and older....

Brandon is really starting to do things that just aren't in his character. The only thing I can come up with is that he is just realizing that by mommy working that means every day, every week. We get them up early, at 6:00. It is crying every morning, and I know it is because he is tired, but lately I am getting like real deep crying and mommy don't leave me, don't go to work, stay with me, I want to stay home all day with you. It is making me feel awful every morning. Then the other night, I went to happy hour after work. John calls me at about 6:30, Brandon bit Justin bad. They were playing and then all of a sudden. He got sent to bed with no movie and no binkie. He has NEVER bitten anyone. He was bitten by a kid 3 times and one was really bad and he knows how bad it hurts. Bedtime has become a nightmare, which NEVER happened. It was always movie and sleep. Now it is a struggle. Crying, I can't sleep by myself, I'm scared, I want to sleep with you. I tried to reason with him, what is scaring you? I had to take all of his stuffed animals out and put them in the hall. He had 2 lights on and the TV and still said it was too dark. Last night at some point he woke up and came into our room saying he couldn't sleep in his room and slept with us. And to top it off, the last couple of days he has been having pee accidents, which he has again NEVER done and this morning he wet OUR bed.

I am really confused and concerned because everything is happening at the same time so I feel like there is something I just am not seeing.

Has anyone else had this stuff happen? Is it a normal almost-4 thing? Please HELP!

Hi, ladies. Thanks for your comments and suggestions.

He doesn't go to a daycare facility, he is only one of 3 kids, my 2 and her son. One of the other changes which I forgot to mention is that the babysitter where he normally goes has been sick and the last week and a half he has been going to someone else. He isn't scared to go and once he gets there, he is just fine. I know he is tired in the morning, he gets up at 6:00 and I assume that alot of the morning drama is attributed to that. He is going back to the normal routine tomorrow. He hasn't bit Justin again, nor have we had any more pee accidents. He even pooped one day on the potty with the new babysitter, bringing her in to see how big it was. He is getting more attitude, especially when he doesn't get his way, but that is normal right? So I get the huff, and the arm fling and crying when it comes to that. I honestly don't think there is any kind of abuse going on, sexual or otherwise. I just think there has been so many changes in the last few months, and then with Cynthia getting sick, maybe that threw him. I will watch for other signs, but I think most have already gone away, thankfully! I was not around much this last weekend since I had company in town, and he dealt fine with that when I wasn't there, but when I came home, he was clingy and wanting me to stay with him. I am thinking seperation anxiety. I try to tell him everyday when I will be picking him up and that I am with him every night. Why he is scared in his room, I don't know, but I thought that was normal too. we let him sleep on the floor of our room 1x a week, we don't want it to be an every day thing. Once he is asleep in his room he is fine. It seems more like an attention thing again. He calls me up there about 100 times.

Brenda, do you know that I also rearranged Brandon's room a month or so ago, but he seemed into it and told me where to move things. Didn't even think of that.

Last night was awful. DH and I were going to Duran Duran so as soon as they got home from babysitter we pretty much had to leave. He freaked, crying he didn't want me to go, Brooke had to drag him up the stairs. He was fine after i left, but I felt horrible.

This morning, he was fine. In a great mood, laughing adn talking all the way to Cynthia's. Now I don't know if that is because he is going back to the original babysitter and loves it there.

Meagan, your probably right about Mommy and Me time. We have hair appointments tonight, and I'll be late, but I will make a point to watch Scooby Doo with him and maybe lay in bed and talk for a while.

See, this is why I need you ladies!

Just wanted to give an update. Brandon has been doing great. Even pooping on the potty every once in a while. Bedtime is still an issue but I think it is more that he will miss something than anything else. But he has been doing great at Cynthias, and is in a good mood in the morning and at night. It has been so nice!!