We have a home visit this afternoon from Children's Services--a standard referral from having the police out when Jonathan made his escape attempt. The guy called and talked to DH and said that since the case was thrown out of court, there's not much to worry about. But they do have to document that they came out and talked to us. No problem. So, we did some work around the house this weekend to sort of prepare for it. Well, the house was clean until MIL and FIL came in and threw shoes, paperwork, clothes, their toiletries, etc. all over the place. I figured I'd just come home early today (DH has a training class) and finish up the last few little things (making sure all the outlet covers were still there, etc.) Well, Dh's orientation is gonna last a little longer than I thought, so I tried to call the inlaws to ask them to pick me up since he has the car. It's literally less than 4 miles away. It takes 7 minutes to get here. So, I call the home phone and nobody answers. I text message DH and he sends me FIL's cell #. I text message FIL. He calls me at work and wants to know what I want. I told him I couldn't get them on the home phone, so I thought I'd message him on his cell. He said DH told him not to answer the phone. Which is fine. But he's upset that I TM'd him, instead of calling. Sorry, but that's a long distance call to his LA cell phone, and I can't do that at work. I ask him what they’re doing today and I get this major attitude from him… "I’m working outside and Karen’s cleaning inside and we’re struggling to get all this stuff done for you before this guy gets here this afternoon because Bobby’s at that training and you’re at work. Now we’re trying to catch up your laundry on top of that." (I don’t remember asking them to clean anything or do our laundry (and I don’t exactly want them going through our bedroom to gather dirty laundry and finding anything they have no business seeing) And I only have one basket of laundry anyway unless THEY created some.). I told him I could leave at 2:30 and he acted a little put out about me needing somebody to pick me up. I told him I’d just wait until DH got off work, and he said no, that one of them would be here. His little attitude is just getting old. I didn't ask them to do a blasted thing. If they want to do it of their own free will, that's fine. But don't try to put me on a guilt trip over it. That house is never gonna stay spotless. We LIVE there and we have a 3 year old. Get over it. And we don't live the same lifestyle you do OR like the same things you do.
I don't appreciate it being made out like we just don't take care of anything around there. We have worked our tails off in the yard and remodeling and a number of other things, in addition to me working full-time and him looking for a job/working at the church. And dealing with Jonathan's problems. They've been all ticked off that we didn't just drop everything when they got here (like I only took one day off of work and that was the day we had to go to court). And DH started a new job two days after they got here. And they can't go to all the restaurants, etc. they wanted to because we have to work around DH's schedule. Well, excuse me!!!! Sitting at home staring at them is not a vacation for me! And we've waited well over a year for DH to find a job. He hasn't had a paying one in almost two years, since FIL couldn't afford to pay him the last 9 months he worked for him! I've worked all night every night on the house ever since they got there. Except for Saturday when I did relax for a little while while they took Jonathan to the museum and DH was sleeping. I was outside putting the new latch on the gate yesterday afternoon while they were ALL sleeping. I also bought and put up all new blinds while they were snoozing. FIL wanted to know why I wasn't watching TV with them last night, and I told him because I didn't have time. They haven't let DH get enough sleep because they want him up working on the house during the day. Which means he's working all night, coming home for 2 hours of sleep and then having his dad wake him up to do more work at the house. Then they want him to eat with them. Then they want this and that and ten other things. It just isn't healthy for DH to be put through all this. But they don't seem to care. They're more concerned about how it reflects on them if the grass isn't mowed. The first day they were here, MIL made FIL go trim our tree out front because it looked lop-sided. And he took way too much off and made it lopsided on the other side. I mean, they can't leave well enough alone. It may be their house, but it's our home. And I'm SO sick of the stinking attitude. FIL hasn't done anythign but gripe since they got there. MIL hasn't done anything but buy stuff for Jonathan "because he needs it". Like I can't buy my kid shoes. He has two new pairs. She bought him three more this week. And three packages of socks. Not that I care. I'm happy to get them. But it's all done with an undertone like they have to do it because we can't. It just irritates me.
DH just called and asked what was going on. I told him about his dad's little attitude and he got a little irritated. But I guess he had a good day at orientation and made a couple of friends, so that is good.
I really hope they leave and go for a drive while this guy is here this afternoon. I sure would hate to say something rude to them in front of him.
I don't appreciate it being made out like we just don't take care of anything around there. We have worked our tails off in the yard and remodeling and a number of other things, in addition to me working full-time and him looking for a job/working at the church. And dealing with Jonathan's problems. They've been all ticked off that we didn't just drop everything when they got here (like I only took one day off of work and that was the day we had to go to court). And DH started a new job two days after they got here. And they can't go to all the restaurants, etc. they wanted to because we have to work around DH's schedule. Well, excuse me!!!! Sitting at home staring at them is not a vacation for me! And we've waited well over a year for DH to find a job. He hasn't had a paying one in almost two years, since FIL couldn't afford to pay him the last 9 months he worked for him! I've worked all night every night on the house ever since they got there. Except for Saturday when I did relax for a little while while they took Jonathan to the museum and DH was sleeping. I was outside putting the new latch on the gate yesterday afternoon while they were ALL sleeping. I also bought and put up all new blinds while they were snoozing. FIL wanted to know why I wasn't watching TV with them last night, and I told him because I didn't have time. They haven't let DH get enough sleep because they want him up working on the house during the day. Which means he's working all night, coming home for 2 hours of sleep and then having his dad wake him up to do more work at the house. Then they want him to eat with them. Then they want this and that and ten other things. It just isn't healthy for DH to be put through all this. But they don't seem to care. They're more concerned about how it reflects on them if the grass isn't mowed. The first day they were here, MIL made FIL go trim our tree out front because it looked lop-sided. And he took way too much off and made it lopsided on the other side. I mean, they can't leave well enough alone. It may be their house, but it's our home. And I'm SO sick of the stinking attitude. FIL hasn't done anythign but gripe since they got there. MIL hasn't done anything but buy stuff for Jonathan "because he needs it". Like I can't buy my kid shoes. He has two new pairs. She bought him three more this week. And three packages of socks. Not that I care. I'm happy to get them. But it's all done with an undertone like they have to do it because we can't. It just irritates me.
DH just called and asked what was going on. I told him about his dad's little attitude and he got a little irritated. But I guess he had a good day at orientation and made a couple of friends, so that is good.
I really hope they leave and go for a drive while this guy is here this afternoon. I sure would hate to say something rude to them in front of him.
You'll spend your entire life picking things up. Just let him play and be a kid. Don't worry about the toys in his floor. You can't expect him to act like a 40 year old when he's 3 1/2.
I hope your MIL has another vital shopping trip to go on when the CPS worker gets there. Of course, they'll probably stay to help and make things worse. I am 
for you. 
