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Is having 2 kids that much harder?

post #1 of 22
8/19/05 at 1:24pm
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Everyone is telling me that having 2 kids is 10 times the work of having one. WHY are people trying to freak me out? Is it really that much harder? Kimmy is almost 4, not like she's still a baby.

So, parents of 2 or more....tell me the truth, what am I in for??
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post #2 of 22
8/19/05 at 1:26pm
It took awhile for me to adjust - Lys was a little over 3 when Kate was born. The toughest part for em is that they are in differetn stages so Kate can't do what Lys can (and wants to do) and Lys doesnt always want to do baby things. So managing my time so both girls get my attention doing appropriate things geared toward them.

Lys was all excited when Kate was born but now it has worn off and shes back to wanted to do her own thing.
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post #3 of 22
8/19/05 at 1:35pm
When I had Devon it really wasn't that 'hard' and mine were 13 months apart. It took a couple of weeks to get a new routine going but after that it was nice. Don't let other people scare you. I think everyone handles it differently and your idea of hard might be different than someone elses. I personally didn't find it 'hard' until Kiera was born. I found that my time was spread thin with 5 kids, two of them being so young. Now she is predictable and setting her own schedule so it is getting a lot easier.
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post #4 of 22
8/19/05 at 1:38pm



BIG difference! But it will be great as soon as everyone adjusts!
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post #5 of 22
8/19/05 at 1:56pm
I think the first few months were hardest, especially when the baby isn't sleeping through the night. When I had my second, I was getting about two hours sleep at a time, dealing with a jealous older child, and post- pregnancy hormones. It was hard. I think the more help you have from your husband and extended family and friends, the easier it will be.
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post #6 of 22
8/19/05 at 2:06pm
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Thanks ladies....you made me feel much better! I know it's going to be an adjustment. Hopefully we'll get into a routine fairly soon!
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post #7 of 22
8/19/05 at 2:51pm
that was the toughest part for me - getting into a routine. Kate is just now taking regular naps and sleeping through the night. Make such a difference!
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post #8 of 22
8/19/05 at 2:58pm
For me - it was an adjustment for everyone. But, after the first couple of months, routine set in and it's been great. I think Kimmie is the perfect age (if there is such a thing. ) Kyler was just about 3 and he just wanted to help. Now... he's almost 4 and he's a great helper.
It's almost easier to keep them together than to seperate them. Delaney will watch Kyler - whatever he is doing - and try to join in.
The one thing you'll notice is that you have even LESS "me" time than you did before. (If THAT's possible!! )
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post #9 of 22
8/19/05 at 3:00pm
Michelle, you and i are in the same boat!! Everyone tells me the same story too about how hard its going to be and now im really in for it... Raymond is going to be 4 too this year, so im thinking it will be okay. i hope!!
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post #10 of 22
8/19/05 at 3:56pm
I found , the adjustment from going to THREE kids, was much easier then it was when I had my second child.
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post #11 of 22
8/19/05 at 4:02pm
Love ya and all but damn it is hard, and my baby still isn't sleeping through the night. People say ohh once you have that first kid your life changes drastically. It didn't for me. Two is REALLY hard for me.
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post #12 of 22
8/19/05 at 6:13pm
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LESS me time?? That stinks! Luckily I have a really good dh who understands when his wife is going to have meltdown and HE suggests that I do something alone for a few hours!

Jan, stop scaring me!!

I hope 4 yrs apart is the "perfect" spacing!
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post #13 of 22
8/19/05 at 6:14pm
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Diana, I have to go through it first so I can tell ya all about it!
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post #14 of 22
8/19/05 at 6:44pm
Mine are 4 years apart if that makes you feel better...

Hey at least you have someone to notice the meltdown.
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post #15 of 22
8/19/05 at 6:50pm
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I know I'm lucky...for now!
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post #16 of 22
8/19/05 at 8:42pm
Kirstie-Raie and Chase are only 19 months apart so it was not a big difference to me. But Kale was a HUGE difference .. just don't wait 10 years for the 3rd!!
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post #17 of 22
8/19/05 at 9:22pm
YES!! :nod: You go from having one child, that's fairly quiet and easy-going, you're still able to go places and do things. Add another one to the picture, especially with Livia's firecracker personality and there's a BIG difference!

God, and we're having another one yet!!
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post #18 of 22
8/21/05 at 9:48am
I took notes reading everyone's post since I am expecting our 2nd son in about 11 weeks or so. I am nervous about it.
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post #19 of 22
8/21/05 at 10:06am
I feel like I'm being pulled in 12 different directions at once! Thats the hardest part!

Austin wants this and that.. and Dylan wants this and that... and meanwhile I'm trying to make dinner.

It takes a lil while to get used to..
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post #20 of 22
8/21/05 at 10:48am
It takes a bit to adjust. I had a bit of a breakdown after Connor was born, i couldnt handle both kids. But as I healed and felt better it was much easier. It becomes your way of life after a little bit, you dont even think about it.
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post #21 of 22
8/21/05 at 11:50am
I asked the same question to a lady I know that has 6 kids ages 1 - 17. She said that the hardest was the first child because she wasn't on a routine while she was pregnant and the baby knew that. Then with the second one she was on a routine...the baby came out just about on the same routine.

I think you have to go through the adjustment time and let the older child help you with the baby. Or that's what I have been thinking. Elizabeth has already told me that she would help me change the baby's diaper and feed the baby...there's not a second one on the way just yet. But she did say that she wanted a brother and a sister. I said no!!
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post #22 of 22
8/25/05 at 9:49pm
IT was hard at first, but things work themselves out. Now that they are older, its nice because they keep eachother company
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