BIL and his pregnant ex-girlfriend are at odds with each other yet again. Over the past few months, he has threatened to kill her and various members of her family at least half a dozen times. Once, he even told me on the phone that he was gonna kill her and her mom.
I shared this with Brandi as a warning to her. He is not sane and is definitely a loose cannon.
So this weekend, he threatened Brandi (said he was gonna beat her butt and kill her) and said that he wanted to beat Tyler's (their 4 year old son) @ss (BIL's words). He told the GF that he was going to come sit in her driveway until she let him see Tyler (he has no legal rights and won't get them established thru the courts b/c he doesn't want to pay child support--YES, he TOLD me this himself
) He told her he was gonna teach her a lesson in life, etc, etc. So now she is staying someplace in secret where he cannot find her and has taken a few days off of work to lay low. He has guns, even though he is a convicted felon and it is illegal for him to have them. She decided to get a temp protective order, and I encouraged her to do it. Y'all he has pulled a gun on her before and the police were called to his house the night she finally left him. He is dangerous.
I told her to tell the judge about the guns and his felonies when she went to him today for the TPO. She took copies of my emails w/her--the one where I told her he had said to me that he was going to "put a bullet in Brandi's head and in her mom's head." And I think also the one about he felonies.
I love my MIL dearly and we are very close, but now I am afraid she will HATE me forever for telling this, but I felt I had to. If it were just the GF he was threatening, it wouldn't be so bad, but they have a baby on the way and a SON. She is the mother of his children. I could never live with myself if he hurt her or those kids.
Did I do the wrong thing? Oh, gosh, I hope not. I am really worried.
I shared this with Brandi as a warning to her. He is not sane and is definitely a loose cannon.So this weekend, he threatened Brandi (said he was gonna beat her butt and kill her) and said that he wanted to beat Tyler's (their 4 year old son) @ss (BIL's words). He told the GF that he was going to come sit in her driveway until she let him see Tyler (he has no legal rights and won't get them established thru the courts b/c he doesn't want to pay child support--YES, he TOLD me this himself
) He told her he was gonna teach her a lesson in life, etc, etc. So now she is staying someplace in secret where he cannot find her and has taken a few days off of work to lay low. He has guns, even though he is a convicted felon and it is illegal for him to have them. She decided to get a temp protective order, and I encouraged her to do it. Y'all he has pulled a gun on her before and the police were called to his house the night she finally left him. He is dangerous.I told her to tell the judge about the guns and his felonies when she went to him today for the TPO. She took copies of my emails w/her--the one where I told her he had said to me that he was going to "put a bullet in Brandi's head and in her mom's head." And I think also the one about he felonies.
I love my MIL dearly and we are very close, but now I am afraid she will HATE me forever for telling this, but I felt I had to. If it were just the GF he was threatening, it wouldn't be so bad, but they have a baby on the way and a SON. She is the mother of his children. I could never live with myself if he hurt her or those kids.
Did I do the wrong thing? Oh, gosh, I hope not. I am really worried.







I think you did the right thing, even if children weren't involved.
... obviously it wasn't the easiest decision, but I'i"m sure you'd have a hard time living with yourself if something ever happened to her because you didn't want to rock the boat with MIL. Have you ever talked to your MIL about the things that you have witnessed? Surely she's not oblivious to it and is concerned about her grandson and unborn grandbaby as well????
and appreciate you all. 
