Get ready, here comes yet another uplifting post from me!
As most of you know, Kyle and I are in counseling. We have had four sessions, all very neutral, meaning we haven't yet gotten into the nitty gritty of our problems yet. The counselor wants to establish a good foundation before we get to the harder stuff. I am all for that.
In our first session, she had us make a list of goals for our marriage and from those goals, she gave each of us assignments to work on throughout the weeks to come. These are ongoing assignments.
Mine:
Sit down and help DH pay the pills and budget our money
Initiate sex once a week
His:
Leave a note, send an email, or text-message to me just to say hi, or hope you are having a good day, or I love you.
I have been doing mine. Has he? NOPE. Not one time. Oh yes, I have emailed him and he's responded, but has he initiated it or done it on his own as he was asked to? NO. If I say anything, do you know what he will say? "I forgot." Or "I have been so busy at work blah blah blah."
But not too busy to go to lunch with his BUDS every Friday, including Christy--the girl I posted about before who has told me herself about a million times how WONDERFUL Kyle is and how LUCKY I am.
Today I am feeling very disgusted with him and with the fact that I feel totally insignificant in his life. I used to think that he worked so hard and did all he does for us, but now I think he does it so that he doesn't have to deal with me and because even if I were gone, he would still work, etc. It's not for me. I have no more illusions.
I just have to wonder how serious he is about therapy and improving things when he cannot even do one simple little thing that means so much to me--at the THERAPIST'S request.
How committed to US is he?
As most of you know, Kyle and I are in counseling. We have had four sessions, all very neutral, meaning we haven't yet gotten into the nitty gritty of our problems yet. The counselor wants to establish a good foundation before we get to the harder stuff. I am all for that.
In our first session, she had us make a list of goals for our marriage and from those goals, she gave each of us assignments to work on throughout the weeks to come. These are ongoing assignments.
Mine:
Sit down and help DH pay the pills and budget our money
Initiate sex once a week
His:
Leave a note, send an email, or text-message to me just to say hi, or hope you are having a good day, or I love you.
I have been doing mine. Has he? NOPE. Not one time. Oh yes, I have emailed him and he's responded, but has he initiated it or done it on his own as he was asked to? NO. If I say anything, do you know what he will say? "I forgot." Or "I have been so busy at work blah blah blah."
But not too busy to go to lunch with his BUDS every Friday, including Christy--the girl I posted about before who has told me herself about a million times how WONDERFUL Kyle is and how LUCKY I am.
Today I am feeling very disgusted with him and with the fact that I feel totally insignificant in his life. I used to think that he worked so hard and did all he does for us, but now I think he does it so that he doesn't have to deal with me and because even if I were gone, he would still work, etc. It's not for me. I have no more illusions.
I just have to wonder how serious he is about therapy and improving things when he cannot even do one simple little thing that means so much to me--at the THERAPIST'S request.
How committed to US is he?
my husband. 
Kyle for being such a MAN!
