Marco started a new job, coming up 2 weeks ago. He is still working in the same trade, doing all the same work, etc., just working for a different company. The owner of the company is someone that Marco worked closely with before and actually, him and his family live right across the road from my parents acreage.
Therefore...I know what kind of hours this guy works (and it's not just cuz it's his company, he's ALWAYS worked very, very long hours), we're talking leaves the house at 7:30am and sometimes doesn't get home until after 11pm. He has a wife and two small children.
I'm worried. Marco has always been a workaholic and enjoys his job - which is good. However, he can get very caught up in his work and he's been known to work long hours too - just not all the time because I won't have that. But now that he's working for this new company, he's either been working 12 hour days, or last week (his first week), he was out of town for 2 nights and 3 days.
I've expressed my concerns about this, even before he decided to go work for this company. My children need their father and I need my husband. I am not willing to single-parent all the time. I understand that his job sometimes requires him to work these kinds of hours, as long as it doesn't become a habit.
So for the past 2 weeks, he hasn't been home once before 6pm, except for last night he was home at 5:30pm and then went back to the shop to do some crap with his van from 8pm-12am. He couldn't bath the kids or get them ready for bed because "he had other things he needed to do before dark".
Lately, I feel like I never get 5 seconds to myself and that he's never home. I really don't mind if it's once in a while, but I'm scared that I'm going to be single-parenting all the time and that's not fair to my kids or to me. However, I can say that after he gets home, most nights, he spends time with the girls, takes them for bike rides, plays with them in the yard, etc.
How do things work at your house? What kind of hours does your husband work? What does he do with his evenings?? And how do you deal with it?
Therefore...I know what kind of hours this guy works (and it's not just cuz it's his company, he's ALWAYS worked very, very long hours), we're talking leaves the house at 7:30am and sometimes doesn't get home until after 11pm. He has a wife and two small children.
I'm worried. Marco has always been a workaholic and enjoys his job - which is good. However, he can get very caught up in his work and he's been known to work long hours too - just not all the time because I won't have that. But now that he's working for this new company, he's either been working 12 hour days, or last week (his first week), he was out of town for 2 nights and 3 days.
I've expressed my concerns about this, even before he decided to go work for this company. My children need their father and I need my husband. I am not willing to single-parent all the time. I understand that his job sometimes requires him to work these kinds of hours, as long as it doesn't become a habit.
So for the past 2 weeks, he hasn't been home once before 6pm, except for last night he was home at 5:30pm and then went back to the shop to do some crap with his van from 8pm-12am. He couldn't bath the kids or get them ready for bed because "he had other things he needed to do before dark".
Lately, I feel like I never get 5 seconds to myself and that he's never home. I really don't mind if it's once in a while, but I'm scared that I'm going to be single-parenting all the time and that's not fair to my kids or to me. However, I can say that after he gets home, most nights, he spends time with the girls, takes them for bike rides, plays with them in the yard, etc.
How do things work at your house? What kind of hours does your husband work? What does he do with his evenings?? And how do you deal with it?
I feel like I am the only parent and someone is renting out the other half of my bed. 
