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post #1 of 36
10/3/05 at 2:38pm
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Ok, so the wedding is 4 weeks away and they are in complete chaos. (no surprise) Still no caterer, invitations aren't finished, etc. My brother and I are not close so I have really just been watching the whole disaster as a movie of the week. So the flower girl dress she picked for Olivia (it is BLACK, but we won't go there) was $200. I kid you not. I ordered it 6 weeks ago because I plan things and I hate last minute running around. The girl (my SIL to be) has one of her little cousins as the other flowergirl and she emails me last night about something minor and I mentioned that the dress was here. (big mistake)

This morning I get an email from my brother stating (not asking) that they will need Olivia's dress so they can take in to a seamstress to copy it. (big shock that they couldn't order it in time, duh) Well, I refuse to hand it over. The dress is not only $200, it is perfectly pressed and I know it will come back a disaster. My brother and the girl are dirty and messy people. Do I look insane???

So what should I say? My mom said to tell them it needed alterations and I don't have it. How often does your mommy tell you to lie? You can think I am a b*tch for not handing it over, but this girl has been Bridizlla (sp?) from the get-go. So let it rip!
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post #2 of 36
10/3/05 at 2:45pm
I don't think I would loan it to her either. She might just keep it and that's not happening. Haven't they been engaged for about a year and are doing the Sheplers wedding? You have my sympathy. My cousin pulled exactly the same trick right down to the cowboy wedding.
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post #3 of 36
10/3/05 at 2:46pm
Dana - I am glad you are back!


I would do what your mom says - that way you aren't starting trouble and making it look like you purposely are not going to 'help' them out in their struggle (When its their fault anyhow!!!) I would say you don't have the dress - you had to get it altered and it wont be ready in time for you to send it over to them .... they must have a picture of it if they picked it out?? and $200 for a little girls dress?!?!?! you are a better person than me!
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post #4 of 36
10/3/05 at 2:46pm
I dont blame you at all for not lending it to them. It is their fault they didnt do anything sooner. And you can guarantee it would come back with something done to it. I agree with your mom, tell them it is gone and you dont have it.
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post #5 of 36
10/3/05 at 2:49pm
I don't blame ya!! I wouldn't hand it over either!

That couple sounds like a disaster.
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post #6 of 36
10/3/05 at 3:12pm
Nope it is their fault and ridiculous that they pick a $200 dress! I bet the family can't afford to pay that much and that is why they are going to copy yours.
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post #7 of 36
10/3/05 at 3:14pm
Tell them to give you $300 ( the extra $100 is for insurance ), plus 50% interest for every day they'll have it. See what they say then!
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post #8 of 36
10/3/05 at 3:41pm
I would take your mom's advice!
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post #9 of 36
10/3/05 at 3:42pm
I just have this feeling, they want to have it altered for her cousin then kick Olivia out of the wedding leaving you with the bill. That's why I say, don't give it to her.
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post #10 of 36
10/3/05 at 3:46pm
$200 for a flower girl dress...for that much any dress I would say you are doing the right thing by not handing the dress over.
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post #11 of 36
10/3/05 at 4:07pm
Um, no...their lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on your part!

Follow your mom's advice. Tell them it's being altered, and you don't have it on hand. Suggest they take a picture to the deamstress and have her work with that. I started planning my wedding oh, like immediately after I got engaged at the end of May!!! (and it is NEXT October!) How can you not plan?

idiots, the lot of them! for you!

(and welcome back )
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post #12 of 36
10/3/05 at 4:10pm
I agree, do not give them the dress!
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post #13 of 36
10/3/05 at 4:17pm
If they can't find a caterer, they can always order out from Kentucky Fried. Or maybe have a chilli cookoff.
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post #14 of 36
10/3/05 at 4:23pm
OMG Lenora
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post #15 of 36
10/3/05 at 4:48pm
I wouldn't give it to them either. I wouldn't even lie. I'd just say I'd rather not that it is ready for the wedding and is staying in the bag til it needs to come out. Tell her she picked the dress out so she should know exactly what it looks like.
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post #16 of 36
10/3/05 at 5:22pm
I agree - Dont give it out. Make up whatever you want or tell her the truth - But for $200 I would not give it up!
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post #17 of 36
10/3/05 at 6:16pm
Thread Starter 
Wow, I wasn't expecting so much agreement! This is the dress by the way. The white one is cute. Olivia's is the black.

http://www.theperfectpear.com/dress801.asp

Hope that works. Yep, this is that wedding, Lenora. The mothers of the bride were also told to wear black. (I wish I was making this up.) And I quote, "The only one wearing white that day is me." Ahh, I can't wait to welcome her to the family....

The boys have yet to be fitted for tuxes, can that get messed up too???
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post #18 of 36
10/3/05 at 6:19pm
I'd understand the black one more if it was a Christmas wedding but it just doesn't seem right for a fall wedding.
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post #19 of 36
10/3/05 at 6:21pm
Um...no way!
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post #20 of 36
10/3/05 at 6:37pm
Dana No way would I hand it over. I like what your mom said. Boy for your brother's sake I hope it all comes together, does not seem to be going that way at all mostly if the invites are not out yet. OMG! Dana why did you not be the wedding consultant? You would have had it all done and time left to play. Am I right?
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post #21 of 36
10/3/05 at 6:39pm
I would think a good seemstrss could look at the picture and make one without needing the real dress.

Stick to your guns!

OOh and I agree wtih Wendy - more of a Christmas dress than a fall wedding dress
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post #22 of 36
10/3/05 at 7:47pm
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Originally Posted by Grace
I just have this feeling, they want to have it altered for her cousin then kick Olivia out of the wedding leaving you with the bill. That's why I say, don't give it to her.
Lenora, I think you might be onto something!
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post #23 of 36
10/3/05 at 7:50pm
I must admit, the dress is prettier than I imagined for a black flower girl dress, but it does look like a Christmas dress. It's pretty basic. I agree with Karen, a good seamstress should be able to copy it from a picture.
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post #24 of 36
10/3/05 at 7:50pm
There is no way I would hand over a $200 dress!
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post #25 of 36
10/3/05 at 8:20pm
i would like and tell them it was being altered too

i like the dress, looks like a winter dress to me too. cute though
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post #26 of 36
10/3/05 at 9:26pm
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I don't know how I would've done Annie, but when I got married, we were done with everything at the 8 weeks away point. Then we were just accepting presents.

You know when this all started she refused help. Was gonna do it all by herself, had a "wedding tote" (?) and was such a PITA. Karma sucks, eh??
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post #27 of 36
10/3/05 at 10:27pm
Tell her that if she gets Olivia's dress, you WILL be wearing white if anything happens to it. And then start talking about how wonderful the new Vera Wang collection is. And be sure to mention the new veils that coordinate with the dresses.

Yeah, NO I would not let them have it (unless you go with my plan A).
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post #28 of 36
10/3/05 at 10:27pm
6 weeks should be plenty of time to order it and pay extra for speed shipping. But any seamstress could duplicate it without looking at it .. should be able to from a picture and a few measurements. But if I was her, I'd watch duplicating another designers dress .. there is where she can get into trouble. I'd just pay the $200 and get another one.
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post #29 of 36
10/4/05 at 11:51am
I can't believe you had to pay $200 for her dress! Ally wore an absolutely adorable flower girl dress in my nephew's wedding last May that my sister got at Kohl's for $30. No way would I let them have the dress!
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post #30 of 36
10/4/05 at 4:41pm
I would tell your future SIL that you are not in the practice of LOANING and that if the seamstress can't copy the dress from the picture that she can come by your house and take a look at it.
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