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post #1 of 16
10/13/05 at 4:07pm
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I was just wondering if I was the only one with this problem. My hubby and I have been trying to have a baby for a long time now without any success, we have not ever had a positive HPT. Well we were married for over 2 years before any of our friends were even engaged. Well now they are all married and have had at least one child and are working on number 2. I feel like I am surrounded by pregnant people. I love their kids it is a lot of fun being around them, but sometimes I become so depressed. I am the only one out of all of my friends that does not have a child. Really right at this momen 6 of my very close friends are pregnant. 2 are due in a matter of days. the rest are due in December, January, Feb., and March. Really every where my husband and I turn there is another pregnant friend of ours. Is it bad of me to hoard a little resentment towards these people? Some of them do not understand why I don't visit a lot. Am I being too childish?
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post #2 of 16
10/13/05 at 4:12pm
No, I felt like that too when I was ttc. :hug;
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post #3 of 16
10/13/05 at 4:15pm
No you are not being childish. I think you are being normal. And I think that your friends could be a little bit more understanding about it.

I have not been in this situation, but I have been around a lot of women that have had problems staying pregnant and I totally understood that it was hard on them to be around me when I was pregnant.

I'm sorry that you are having a hard time.
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post #4 of 16
10/13/05 at 4:31pm
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Thanks knowing that I am not acting to terribly silly about this whole thing makes me feel a little better.
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post #5 of 16
10/13/05 at 4:35pm
I felt the same way
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post #6 of 16
10/13/05 at 5:07pm
i felt the same way totally

then there are the people who have no intentions of having kids, have teenagers already and have an oppsy and get pregnant

if you want to talk more in depth, feel free to pm me or email me
miracles do happen you know
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post #7 of 16
10/13/05 at 8:11pm
I felt the same way as well. You are not being silly or childish
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post #8 of 16
10/13/05 at 8:39pm
I was never in your position, but I have to think that I would feel the same way if I were. It sounds totally normal and maybe you just need to let your friends know that sometimes it bothers you to be around them and their children. Maybe they just don't understand.
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post #9 of 16
10/13/05 at 9:31pm
It's totally normal. It took us almost 4 years of TTC.... after many procedures, surgeries and meds.... we finally got pregnant.

It's very hard to be in your position.... I totally understand.... I was there.
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post #10 of 16
10/14/05 at 12:38am
I totally understand. My husband and I have been married 3 1/2 years we have been TTC for about 6 months now. I am starting to think everyone else is pregnant but me. It will happen for you. I hope it happens soon. good luck and whenever you need to talk there are lots of us here to talk to.
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post #11 of 16
10/14/05 at 11:00am
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Thanks so much everyone. I feel great most days and then others are totally awful. I think that my friends kind of understand but then they do not. I am sure when they say things like "it was just right for us to get pregnant, we were ready" they do not intentionally try and hurt my feelings. But one time I did blow up and say, " Oh, you were ready huh, well that is great, maybe sometime in the next 5 years I will be ready too!" I know she heard the sarcasim in it. I think I was mad because they had only been married for like 2 months and they were ready. I was like HELLO I have been ready for the last 4 years!! But we worked it out I told her I was sorry for being rude and she apologized as well. It just sucks when people wake up one morning and decide they want a baby so the next day they are pregnant. URGG
I swear my sister-in-law can be in the other room and think she wants another baby and boom she is pregnant.
I am so happy for my brother and her right now. There is going to be another new neice or nephew with in the next week. They will have 4 kids then!! Craig is 9 Brooke is 7 and Baby Gary just turned 1 last month and this new one soon to arrive is the baby baby. They said that they are stopping after this one. 4 is enough. I was like I would hope soo!! But they make such sweet kids they could have 12 and I would not care. I love those little brats so much.
Well sorry for rambling. Thanks for the support!
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post #12 of 16
10/16/05 at 12:04am
I understand where you are coming from and I am sorry you have to feel like this i know it is not fun my situation is a little simalar we got pregnant last Nov my close girlfriend who i also work with and i talked about it all the time she was not so sure she wanted to ttc so when i told her my news she was happy 2 months later she was pregnant we were both excited she did alot of complaining about how she felt and this is so hard and 9months is so long and i don't want to get fat well when i was 22weeks i lost the baby my little Frankie boy it was the hardest thing for me then to here her she kept complaining in front of me to like evreything was going wrong for her and oh it will happen to me evreything else has and i was like how dear you well she just had her baby 6weeks ago a boy and it is so hard for me to be around them because i knew i should be there with my baby to you feel awful for feeling like this with friends but you can not help it it is only natural are turn will come thanks for listening
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post #13 of 16
10/16/05 at 3:36am
to both of you.

sorry for your loss nicoled
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post #14 of 16
10/17/05 at 4:11pm
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Nicoled I am so sorry for what has happened to you. I really hope that the other girl will stop complaining and realize what she is saying. There are a lot of people out there that talk before they think. Some of them are very blessed and are very blind to it. Good Luck I know it is hard sometimes to keep your spirits up.
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post #15 of 16
10/25/05 at 2:40pm
I am sorry you are having dificulties. I don't think you are being childish. My sister and cousin were both trying to have babies for a while and I was not trying at the time and guess who ended up pregnant, me! We were excited but I felt bad for the both of them and so I don't not discuss it much unless they asked because I felt bad. Luckily my sister was pregnant 5 weeks later and my cousin is now expecting twins in December. But, I understood how badly they wanted babies and understood if they were distant or sad. Good Luck!
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post #16 of 16
10/25/05 at 7:21pm
I felt the same way, but I tried to suck it up and do the right thing and not hold something against them that wasn't their fault. It was so hard, though. Aside from feeling very envious, I also felt guilty because of feeling jealous. It was really tough, and I can totally relate to how you feel.
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