Your pain is real and as you begin your divorce recovery, you
may experience some or all of the following symptoms to some
extent:
1. inability to sleep or sleeping more than usual
2. over eating or a total lack of appetite
3. fatigue
4. unusual aches and pains
5. excessive alcohol or drug use
6. difficulty concentrating
7. persistent negative thoughts
8. irritability or anger
9. anxiousness or restlessness
10. sense of guilt or worthlessness
11. pessimism or indifference
12. loss of interest in formerly pleasurable activities
13. recurrent thoughts of death
14. thoughts of suicide - *Get Help Immediately*
Consult your doctor if you are experiencing at least four of
these symptoms on a daily basis for a prolonged period.
how do you get beyond this empty feeling? First, begin to
realistically examine what actually happened in your marriage.
Start to forgive yourself for mistakes you may have made.
Maybe you weren't perfect, but you are basically a good person.
You can't go back and change the past, so let it go, and allow
yourself to find contentment in the here and now.
You still have much to be thankful for, even with the
inevitable changes that divorce brings. Actively try to find
joy in the life you have right now. Be thankful for the birds
singing, for the wonderful smell of your first cup of coffee,
for the angelic look on your children's faces as they sleep,
or the friend's shoulder you can lean on. Allow yourself some
of the simple pleasures in life, such as reading an uplifting
book, getting outside to enjoy the sunshine, or baking
chocolate chip cookies.
When you're feeling blue, mentally tell yourself that you
choose to be happy, regardless of your situation. It may
feel fake, but emotions have a way of grabbing hold of
your attitude. Wouldn't you rather your attitude be one
of joy and happiness?
If you need to be sad set a time frame 15 to 30 minutes a day, that is paste on a smile and go. As the days pass, you'll find yourself making less and less use
of this time. Eventually, you won't even need it.
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may experience some or all of the following symptoms to some
extent:
1. inability to sleep or sleeping more than usual
2. over eating or a total lack of appetite
3. fatigue
4. unusual aches and pains
5. excessive alcohol or drug use
6. difficulty concentrating
7. persistent negative thoughts
8. irritability or anger
9. anxiousness or restlessness
10. sense of guilt or worthlessness
11. pessimism or indifference
12. loss of interest in formerly pleasurable activities
13. recurrent thoughts of death
14. thoughts of suicide - *Get Help Immediately*
Consult your doctor if you are experiencing at least four of
these symptoms on a daily basis for a prolonged period.
how do you get beyond this empty feeling? First, begin to
realistically examine what actually happened in your marriage.
Start to forgive yourself for mistakes you may have made.
Maybe you weren't perfect, but you are basically a good person.
You can't go back and change the past, so let it go, and allow
yourself to find contentment in the here and now.
You still have much to be thankful for, even with the
inevitable changes that divorce brings. Actively try to find
joy in the life you have right now. Be thankful for the birds
singing, for the wonderful smell of your first cup of coffee,
for the angelic look on your children's faces as they sleep,
or the friend's shoulder you can lean on. Allow yourself some
of the simple pleasures in life, such as reading an uplifting
book, getting outside to enjoy the sunshine, or baking
chocolate chip cookies.
When you're feeling blue, mentally tell yourself that you
choose to be happy, regardless of your situation. It may
feel fake, but emotions have a way of grabbing hold of
your attitude. Wouldn't you rather your attitude be one
of joy and happiness?
If you need to be sad set a time frame 15 to 30 minutes a day, that is paste on a smile and go. As the days pass, you'll find yourself making less and less use
of this time. Eventually, you won't even need it.
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