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post #1 of 26
11/7/05 at 8:36am
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Is the table set causual or very elegant?
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post #2 of 26
11/7/05 at 9:27am
Hmmm....I'd have to say midway...we have always used Mom's good china and her sterling flatware,but the setting itself is more casual than fancy, KWIM?
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post #3 of 26
11/7/05 at 12:07pm
If its at my house it is VERY casual
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post #4 of 26
11/7/05 at 12:14pm
Fancy china but casual setting.
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post #5 of 26
11/7/05 at 12:36pm
Quite formal at my grandparents. Good silver, big table, good china, table cloth, runners, center pieces the whole 9 yards. I love it!! Nothing like a great family get together. We all usually dress nice too. Holiday sweaters or dresses and everything.
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post #6 of 26
11/7/05 at 12:39pm
Very casual
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post #7 of 26
11/7/05 at 12:46pm
Casual. There's just so many of us and so many kids, that it works better that way.
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post #8 of 26
11/7/05 at 12:56pm
wow I'm surprised at how many are so casual. Even with tons of kids running around we have it formal. It's a holiday!! it's supposed to be formal.
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post #9 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:01pm
Holidays should be about being together as a family ~ not what people wore. I dont care how people dress as long as I am with my family. Id much rather be casual and be able to have fun- than stck in a dress all day. Same for my girls.
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post #10 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:03pm
I don't think it has to be formal. I think it's whatever makes your family happy and comfortable.
We like it casual. It may be a southern thing. But we enjoy being together as a family and my MIL doesn't even own fine China. That is just not "her." We eat delicious food, and have a great time together as a family, and that's all we really care about.
Not saying that there is anything wrong with being formal, but it's just not important to us.
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post #11 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:08pm
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with casual. I just find it odd that no one does the formal thing anymore. It just goes to show how much families have changed I guess. I'm still going to my grandparents house for Thanksgiving. I don't usually wear a dress anymore but I love the whole big table aspect with the kids at their own kiddie table. I'm just quite old fashion when it comes to holidays I guess. I can't wait to have the space to have big formal holidays.
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post #12 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:09pm
Karen, we must have been posting at the same time. I agree with you totally.
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post #13 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:12pm
I would have no problem having a "formal" Holiday - but in my family it doesnt happen. What should I do put the girls at their own table? That seems pretty mean as they have no cousins to sit with.

Now when I go to my inlaws its a bit more formal. But if I'm hosting - as I am this year - its all about casual. I have 2 sets of china - but I'm not gonna drag them out for one day a year.
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post #14 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:16pm
We used to do a Christmas dinner with our friends a week or so before Christmas and those used to be formal. But that was before we had Emily and we had time to do all that entailed. It's not that I dislike formal, but it's not really our family's thing.
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post #15 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:21pm
VERY casual at my parents and Rick's parents. There isn't a table big enough to hold everyone, so we do it buffet style at both places. Minimum of 18 at Rick's parents just with immediate familes - and there is always a few extra. We usually have about 12 at my mom's. If everyone showed, there would 21 with just the immediate family.
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post #16 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:25pm
I'd rather be worried about the time spent with my family instead of dressing to impress .. the table or myself.

And the whole kids table aspect is just wrong to me .. I love having the kids with the adults.
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post #17 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:28pm
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Originally Posted by Roxanna
And the whole kids table aspect is just wrong to me .. I love having the kids with the adults.
I totally agree!
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post #18 of 26
11/7/05 at 1:32pm
I'm not trying to impress anyone, my side of the family enjoys the tradition of it. It doesn't really take us any more time to set out nice dishes and stuff. The reason for a kid table is there are too many people to sit all at one most of the time. And it's okay to give the kids plastic plates and not worry that they are going to drop the good stuff.
All about tradition is why we do it.
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post #19 of 26
11/7/05 at 2:01pm
Brenda, we are like you. Lots of people at MIL's for the holidays. Just the family and kids makes for 15, and if Kyle's cousin brings his girlfriend or if BIL and his GF have worked out their issues, then that adds four more to the mix.
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post #20 of 26
11/7/05 at 2:21pm
Yea .. even if we had seperate tables there would not be enough .. just my immediate family .. 6 sisters, 4 BIL's, 2 nephews and 10 neices ... add in my mother and stepdad and you've got 24 total .. just my immediate family
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post #21 of 26
11/7/05 at 4:20pm
we have 24 or 25 that come in our immediate family as well. I love all those people together
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post #22 of 26
11/7/05 at 4:32pm
At my parent's house it is very formal-best china, silver etc and we all dress up. DH's side of the family is very casual and it is buffet style lounge in the chair with your pants unzipped if you want.
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post #23 of 26
11/9/05 at 10:53am
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Like Mel my parents side of the family and them are formal. Ex's house causual and they do nothing for Easter. That was a shock to my system.
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post #24 of 26
11/9/05 at 11:28am
We used to have a fairly formal xmas dinner, (we don't do thanksgiving over here) but we always had a seperate table for the kids, as a child I loved not having to sit with the grown ups and as a mother it is pretty darn good too , altho kids in highchairs sat at the adults table, only kids that can feed themselves get to sit at the kids table (and kids food is ALWAYS dished first)
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post #25 of 26
11/9/05 at 11:38am
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Originally Posted by AnnieQ
Like Mel my parents side of the family and them are formal. Ex's house causual and they do nothing for Easter. That was a shock to my system.

Nothing for EASTER?? wow that would be weird for me.
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post #26 of 26
11/10/05 at 3:18pm
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Maree did not realize you do not celebrate Thanksgiving at all. Kids table at my family was just like you told it Maree. Baby's in high chairs at the adult table.

Yes strange Mel.
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