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post #1 of 11
11/9/05 at 6:17pm
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My DH and I have been discussing TTC with our second. He is ready and wants to start right away. I really want to have another too but I have concerns- mostly about how life will be when our second child comes. My first is 9 months now. I am not worried about my nutrition through the pregnancy. I just really loved all the time I was able to spend with my first right after he was born. I am worried that if we have our next child when my son is still under two, then he will still be too dependent and need a lot of parent-guided play time and it will take away from my bonding with the baby. Any help with this is much needed.
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post #2 of 11
11/9/05 at 6:43pm
My daughter was 19 months old when I had my older son. It was difficult at times, but I wouldn't change a thing! She loved on him a lot when he was a baby, too. Only downside is the older sibling isn't able to help out as much, but again it's not really a big issue.
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post #3 of 11
11/9/05 at 7:01pm
My daughter will be about 17 months old when my 2nd child is born. I'm sure there are challenges no matter what ages you space them at.
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post #4 of 11
11/9/05 at 7:14pm
We had twin boys and then our daughter was born when the boys were 14 months old. I can't say I know of a "good" age gap. I will tell you that since my kids are so close in age, they are very close and there was never any baby adjustment or jealousy because they don't ever recall being an only child, KWIM? GL!
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post #5 of 11
11/9/05 at 8:18pm
My boys are 19 months apart, and DH had some issues with it at first. About a week ago he looked at them playing and said:" Thank you for convincing me not to wait 7 years." They just have each other as best friends, and even though it wasn't always easy, and even downright hard in the first year at times, I wouldn't want to change it for the world.
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post #6 of 11
11/9/05 at 8:20pm
My older two are 19 months apart and it was FANTASTIC when they were younger. Not that it is bad now, just that when they were younger they loved the fact that they always had a playmate. They are very close still to this day.
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post #7 of 11
11/9/05 at 10:10pm
My MIL had my husband and then had his brother about 18 months later. She says all the time that it was hard at first, but it turned out to be the best thing because they could play together, etc.
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post #8 of 11
11/9/05 at 11:32pm
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I think that I would probably feel this same way even if we were deciding in a year or two. It is just a big step in my mind to go from one kid to two. Thanks for your good points everyone.
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post #9 of 11
11/10/05 at 12:07am
Well I'm the oddball here. There are 4 years between my first two. When my oldest son was a year old, I found out I was pregnant again. It was really too soon, IMO. I missed out on alot of the "baby stuff" with my oldest son. Because of pregnancy issues, I wasn't able to pick him up and I spent a lot of time on bedrest. We couldn't afford another crib, so he was rushed out of his sooner than I would have liked.

Then once the youngest came along, there were two to feed at a time, two in diapers, two to carry across the parking lot, two to push in the stroller ... you get the point. I've been worn out ever since. They are now 3 1/2 & 5 and I finally feel like I'm in control again.

But you're right .. it's a big adjustment no matter when you decide to have another. Good luck!
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post #10 of 11
11/10/05 at 1:41am
Michael and Devon are 13 months apart! I love it. They are close, and I am so glad I did it that way.

DH and I planned Nick and Kiera to be close in age because of how nice it was with Michael and Devon. It's a little tough right now, but that has more to do with the fact that I have 5 kids(Christian is my step son), then how close in age they are.
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post #11 of 11
11/10/05 at 10:35am
My three are 2 years and 1 month apart and we wouldn't have it any other way.They are close in age and will play well together (we hope). Brianna just loves the twins and helps out the best way a 2 year old can. She kisses them goodnight (she won't go to bed unless she does), she tries to feed one of them, she climbs up the changetable and will grab the dirty diapers and run them out to the garbage. She plays and talks to them all the time. So, I have 3 two and under and it can be difficult sometimes but also a joy too. Good luck with your decision.
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