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Do you really like you inlaws or do you

post #1 of 22
11/18/05 at 2:07pm
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Just put up with them for the sake of your marriage?

I have to be honest here I really got along with my SIL for the past 3 or 4 years. Well just last week I learned that our conversations by email were not private, she forward who knows how many to my MIL. I learned about this because my MIL responded to an email that I sent to my SIL to me!!!

I won't lie I was hurt more then mad. I felt so betrade. What I had wrote wasn't a secret so that wasn't what upset me. It was the fact that she forwarded the email. Then my MIL had to make a comment back. And to be honest once again what she said wasn't all that bad.She just said "who cares about her weight" but I'm sure there was more to it. There had to have been another email. Either way what they say about me it not what matters. What really upset me is my SIL who I though of as more like a friend betrade me. I'm the stupid one. DH told me, I told you before not to trust them. It's sad when your own husband tells you not to trust his own family. As you can tell it's been over a week since this happened neither one has apologized.
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post #2 of 22
11/18/05 at 2:20pm
I have one SIL who is like a sister to me and I love my FIL to pieces and love my MIL too but we're not close. My other two SILs I get along with but we're not close either. I do like them all so that's good, even though we do have our differences at times.

I'm sorry you feel betrayed and I would as well. Have you talked to your SIL about this?
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post #3 of 22
11/18/05 at 2:30pm
I love my soon-to-be MIL, BIL and his wife.
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post #4 of 22
11/18/05 at 4:30pm
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See that's the things we have had our problem in the past and I thought we all grew and got over them also and were more then in laws to each other. I guess I was the only one that felt this way. I did email my sister in law that i was hurt that she felt the need to pass a long my email and that I though of her as a close friend, but like I said no email or phone call from her or MIL.
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post #5 of 22
11/18/05 at 9:10pm
I love my inlaws! They are just really wonderful people. They're always there for us no matter what happens. I'm actually closer to my SIL and MIL than I am to my sis and Mom. I'm pretty close with mom these days, but I guess cuz I see MIL more, I talk to her more.
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post #6 of 22
11/18/05 at 9:33pm
i like my inlaws. and have fun with them around, but i have discovered that i can't trust them not to reapeat things i say to them.

thankfully the closest one is over 4 hours away
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post #7 of 22
11/18/05 at 10:34pm
Well, it's well known that I hate mine. And it is quite mutual.
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post #8 of 22
11/18/05 at 11:31pm
I love my FIL... no coment about the others
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post #9 of 22
11/19/05 at 12:47am
My MIL is ok. I like her but she does open her mouth a bit too much sometimes.
My SFIL is awesome. He is very helpful in all aspects.
My BIL has grown on me over the years. He was a real jerk to put it politley when I first met him.
My 2 SSIL are ok. I only really see them 1 or 2 times a year unless I run into them in a store. They were pretty screwed up but seem to be getting their lives back on track - unfortunelty their children have NO dicipline (and I thought Lys could be bad - you should see these 4!)
and then there is Mel - and I like her

Oh I forgot -
I also have my FIL - He's an alcoholic who should be behind bars. I tolerate him and same with his new wife. I have a hard time with her cause she is almost old enough to be my grandma
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post #10 of 22
11/19/05 at 1:13am
Lupe - I'm sorry your SIL betrayed you like that.
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post #11 of 22
11/19/05 at 2:29am
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Originally Posted by DQKaren
and then there is Mel - and I like her
ya I like Karen too. I get along with the BIL alright. The Parents are good too.
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post #12 of 22
11/19/05 at 7:29am
I don't like my sil very much I'll tell you about her a bit later...
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post #13 of 22
11/21/05 at 11:12am
I love my MIL. We are very close, and I am so glad that is the case.
Things are better with my FIL now that he has quit drinking. Actually, they are a lot better.
Kyle's cousin and I get along very well, and she is like a sister to him.
As for Kyle's brother, I tolerate him for the sake of my MIL. DH feels the same way.
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post #14 of 22
11/21/05 at 11:13am
Lupe, I am sorry your SIL did that to you. I would not be happy with her and I wouldn't ever trust her again.
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post #15 of 22
11/21/05 at 12:43pm
Just make sure to put nothing in the emails you don't want everyoe to know. Maybe SIL is doing just to keep MIL updated, I don't know.

I get along great with my SIL, and if we lived in the same town, I am sure she would be one of my best friends. I get along great with MIL and FIL also.
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post #16 of 22
11/21/05 at 3:04pm
I get along with my MIL ok, it's just that when ever im around her, i feel like im being interrigated. Everything she says to me is just trying to get info out of me about how im raising my DS and treating her "baby". It is frustrating when I get home and think about how minipulating her conversations are. We are only one hour away from them and they think they are being neglected unless we see them every two/three weeks. So, it gets hard.
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post #17 of 22
11/25/05 at 6:46pm
Lupe that is just sad. I am so sorry she broke your trust. Not right at all.
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post #18 of 22
11/25/05 at 7:47pm
I honestly love my inlaws!
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post #19 of 22
11/25/05 at 8:13pm
The only in law I don't really like is my sil (fiance's sister) its not that I hate her I just hate the **** she pulls (see my post "sil is bitch") but my other in laws I get along with fine. I see them more than my own family.
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post #20 of 22
11/25/05 at 8:20pm
I honestly care and love MIL. She drives me a bit batty at times but still...I love her to pieces. FIL...well he is a bit strange but he is ok too. Court's 2 full sisters are all right. I am closer to one than the other but I like them and we can get along pretty well. His half sister I would prefer to never see again..always worried she will steal something or pass along scabies or lice to me and kids.. His adopted sister...can't stand her.
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post #21 of 22
11/26/05 at 4:31pm
I tolerate them. I have told dh before if I could just divorce his family and keep him it would be great

Some of them I like and get along with, but I always feel like they are looking at me like I'm trash (even though THEY are the podunk rednecks)
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post #22 of 22
11/26/05 at 9:02pm
I get long with all of my in-laws. For many years FIL and I butted heads on a regular basis. In fact, I refused to let Rick take Drew to their house for over 6 months at one point. But we get along great now and he is probably one of my favorites in the whole family. My MIL is really sweet and I just adore her. I get along with all of Rick's siblings and their spouses, too.
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