Sil Is B@&#$

My sil (lets call her D) had the nerve to ring child protection against me almost a year ago (when Hayley was about 2 months old) anyway, the reason I know it was her was because welfare came over to my house and were asking 20 questions on how I look after Hayley, they even asked me if I wanted to do parenting classes, My other sis (k) told me that D told her that welfare was involved even b4 I knew about it (are you with me?) How would D know about welfare being involved with me even b4 I know anything unless she was the one who made the call??? Then bil (B) and K actually TOLD me that D told them that she was the one who rang them. I knew it was her anyway coz she has done this b4 (not to me, to someone else) because she is desperate for another kid (she has 4 girls already but has her tubes tied) she just wants to make me look like I'm a bad mother and for people to think that shes a really caring Aunty and is trying to protect Hayley (from what I don't know) they (welfare) asked me if I was on drugs, they asked me if I'd ever left Hayley at home by herslef, all these stupid questions (which were BS) that made me feel like a bad mother (which I know I'm not) yet D lets her 9 year old DD babysit and cook dinner. (Go figure) I really want to confront her about it but she leant us all her baby furniture and she also had the privlige (sp?) of being there at the birth (this was b4 I knew what she was really like, otherwise...)
Do you think I should confront her and say, I know it was you, I have been told by a few different people, also that I knew b4 coz what I've bee told by D doesn't seem to add up, meaning how could she know b4 me unless she she was the one who rung them?

I don't want there to be any conflict between us and I'm also scared she will turn around and ask for her things back and we don't have the money to go out and buy any of that stuff (cot, etc).

She just wants to be this doting Aunt. Welfare came around twice and they said that there is nothing wrong and the case is closed but it still bothers me coz it should never of happened in the first place and what gets me even more mad is that a few people know about it but no-one says anything to her (that includes my fiance) and I've had enough.

I tried confronting about it after it happen but I did it "tongue in cheek" i said that it seemed odd that you'd know anything b4 I did and she turned around and said to me "I wouldn't go blaming me coz you'll lose your support system" I just left it at that.
I asked her if she knew who it was (I already knew anyway I just wanted to see what she'd say) and she said something about her friend works for welfare (or some BS story) and thats how she found out. Well, I'm sorry but if that were true her friend should be working for welfare coz she not allowed to say anything to anyone beciause of the privacy act. Its all a bit suss to me.

Do you think I should confront her now that I have actually been told or should I just leave it and let it blow over?????

was meant to say her friend should NOT be working for welfare.

Another thing, she knew that my step mother abused me and that my mum had died even b4 I told her. She knew because she apparently got out my records (or got someone else to do it) from welfare (I have been involved with them b4 but it was coz my step mum was abusive). Hmmm.

I think I will give her stuff back, the thing is she comes over and acts all nice as if nothings happenend (or as if I don't know anything) and goes behind my back. I found out from my other sil that D told her that the reason she rung welfare was because she thought I wasn't maternal enough (wtf?) and also I had Hayley in the bed with us for the 1st couple of months coz I breast fed. I'm pretty sure millions of people do that, its not really a legit reason to have strangers come into your house and ask if you're interested in parenting classes. I worked in child care for crying out loud! Also, D told other sil (K) that she though that me or Grant would ring her if anything went wrong and she would end up with Hayley (thats what she was hoping for) she said that she thought she has rights coz shes the Aunty, well, Hayley has a few Aunties.

Maybe I should confront her on Xmas in front of everyone.

Shes my fiance's sister. I have spoken to Grant (fiance) about it and he just says, "thats what she does, thats the kind of person she is" and he basicilly tells me not to worry since Hayley wasn't taken away, but I keep telling him that its not the point and that she needs to be told "enoughs enough" coz like I said in my 1st post, shes done this b4 to some other family member.

Don't really know what support system shes talking about since she hardly ever rings here, she just goes through other people to see how Hayley is. If she has a problem withthe way I'm parenting (which there isn't one, shes just jealous coz she can't have anymore kids) she should be upfront about it and not go behind my back and pull this ****. Trust me, if I had of known what she was really like I would have told her to **** off ages ago.
I will have a look at that website anyway.

She IS the kind of person who likes to have control, she thinks because she has 4 kids that she knows everything and always tells people (especially me) how to raise their kids. She comes off as a nice, caring person on the outside always saying things like "if you need anything, just let me know" but behind your back she talks about you and all that.

Shes already had welfare at her place coz apparently she pulled her youngest daughter (2 at the time) out of her high chair by her arm and it came out of her socket. Also she told me that she started smacking her kids from when they were 8 or 9 months old. What the hell would a baby have done so wrong that they would deserve a smack ??? :
Yet Im the one who is told to do parenting classes.

My sil (K) told me that other sil (D, the bitchy one thats trying to take Hayley for herself) told her to have Hayley for the weekend so that she (K) can take her to the doctors coz apparently I don't feed her enough. (WTF???) K tells me everything D tells her (D doesn't know this) and we've both had enough of her BS (shes done other stuff which I won't get into, yet) I take Hayley to a health nurse every few months and she is a happy healthy baby, yes, she is small and thin but so am I and her Dad. D doesn't even have the balls to tell me to take her to the doctors herself, she has to go through K to tell me everything. :rolls: I am really annoyed! I feel like just saying to D "yes, I am a disgraceful (sp?) mother I shouldn't be allowed to have kids and Hayley should be taken away and I should be locked up and the key thrown away. I am really, really, really, really I am thinking about confronting her but I think I'll wait 'til after the holidays (Xmas and New Years)