What happens when you do not agree on parenting?

Oh yes. We disagree about a lot of things. I have talked with him at lenght about some of the things he doesn't I don't care for and visa versa. Usually, we can work something out. He has his parenting style and I have mine. Usually, if he's not doing something I think is flat out wrong, I leave him to do things his way.

There were a few different times that when Haley ruined something of Zach's he grabbed something of Haley's and broke it. That really bothered me and I would let him know it but of course he did it again.

Ed and I had very differant ideas on parenting. I very rarley confronted in front of the kids but I would after they went to bed. Of course it never did any good so I had to keep them out of his way and quiet to keep him from going off on them.

Dan and I don't disagree too often on parenting issues. We both went into this (parenting) saying that we don't know anything about it... and we have alot to learn. So... if he thinks I did something wrong - he tells me and vise-a-versa.

However - there have been a few times when we disagree. (He's much more lenient (sp?) than I am.) And... we fight - loudly. And then I usually win. Unless I just give up and give it to him. (IF it's not dangerous). It really depends what the original issue is.

We had an issue just a few weeks ago that made me furious.

I was going to get dinner and Des had to move his 4x4 car out of the driveway so I could get my car out of the garage. he had been drinking but not enough that he couldn't back the car out of the driveway and park it on the lawn. Instead he got out 13 year old son to do it. I was so exceptionally angry that I still haven't spoken to him about it.

It's not the fact that he let a 13 year old drive the car under very controlled conditioned, it is the fact that now the 13 year old knows how easy it is to actually drive (correction, now he thinks he knows how easy it is to drive) Tk has a temper and goes storming off to his room when he is angry, hops into bed, puts his MP3 player on and rocks under the blankets until he feels better.

I'm scared that one day he is going to go storning off with one of our car keys now that the whole "I can't drive, I'm not old enough, it's to hard, to complicated, etc, etc" mystic is gone.

Des doesn't seem to realise that he has opened the door to a huge problem.

Then again maybe I am seriously over reacting, I don't know, I can't think straight on this issue. All I can see is that he has put 'my' child at risk bc he was being stupid bc he had been drinking.

Don't get me wrong, Des loves our kids with all his heart and would sooner bite his own arms off than hurt one of them, but sometimes he doesn't seem to understand that one little harmless bit of fun can lead to a situation that could prove lethal.

Or I'm a paranoidly over protective parent ????????????

we dont' disagree very often.. on disipline anyhow

Dh has the role of secondary wanna be 1st in the disapline area. I will be yelling or correcting the kids and he will step in there and want to know what happened and disapline to his extent. That I do not like.

I am the punisher and when DH want to be he takes it to the extreme.

DH and I disagree. He yells alot. He doesn't just know how to use a stern voice. I am constantly telling him to step back and stop yelling. I told him if you yell ALL the time, when it is important to yell, such as if they are running into the street or doing something else harmful, it will have no effect. That and he'll threaten a whopping for everything. Not that he goes through with it, but it ticks me off to hear him say it. And if I ask him to do something, he usually passes it on to Brandon, like please go upstairs and get me whatever, he'll then ask Brandon to do it and if he doesn't he gets mad. Well that makes me mad, cos I asked DH to do it, not Brandon. I feel like sometimes he treats Brandon like he is 14 and not 4.

There are times that DH thinks I am not reprimanding enough, like when the kids don't listen. He tells me that I am the parent and I need to deal with it.

Maree, I don't know I think it's not a HORRIBLE thing but its definitly something that the DH should have thought about before he had your son do that. Maybe you should have a talk with your son about how just because you move the car in the driveway doesn't mean you are ready to drive on the street. It really is hard and you have to pay attention to lots of things.

Grant and I parent Hayley the same. If someone doesn't parent their kids the way I would I wouldn't say anything as its none of my business (unless they were beating the crap out of them) I mean, I don't like kids having soft drink and watching t.v and playing video games all day but they're not my kids, also I don't believe in smacking but I know heaps of people do it, I can understand all parents are different and raise their children differently and I respect that. If someone wants advice from me then I will give it to them but at the end of the day its up to them (the parents) whether or not they will follow through on it.

Yes Jimmy and I see parenting at different levels. He still believes in his parents way, which I hate and I like the open door policy like my mom did.