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Do you feel accepted by the in-laws?

post #1 of 22
1/8/06 at 6:14pm
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Shane's family has never been anything but nice to me but I'm not sure they have accepted me yet. They still have a picture of Shane and his ex-wife on the wall in their home.
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post #2 of 22
1/8/06 at 6:15pm


Seriously .. it has gotten MUCH better .. I mean .. I'm in the will
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post #3 of 22
1/8/06 at 6:16pm
Is dss in it? I wouldn't like that either. I think for a long time they thought I was just a fling. After 10 years, I think they've pretty much given up that pipe dream.
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post #4 of 22
1/8/06 at 6:18pm
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No, he's not... it's just the two of them.
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post #5 of 22
1/8/06 at 8:14pm
Yes. Even more so now that their daughter has died. (Our relationship is a bit better now)
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post #6 of 22
1/8/06 at 9:34pm
Definitely, well at least with MIL and the extended family.
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post #7 of 22
1/8/06 at 10:24pm
Definitly!
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post #8 of 22
1/8/06 at 10:39pm
yes, I get along well with mine, and he gets along well with his
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post #9 of 22
1/8/06 at 10:50pm
Yes I do feel that they have accepted me, mostly because 2 of their grandson's are MY son's.
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post #10 of 22
1/9/06 at 3:10am
Elaine I wouldn't worry about the picture, no matter what happened later she was part of the family and as she is the mother of their grandson she will remain in contact with them and it would be sad for the grandchild if she didn't.

My mother ended up with a huge portrait of my brother, his ex girlfriend and their little girl as a baby bc neither of the adults wanted it, her thought was that it was nice for Khasha to have a family portrait with both her mother and father in it for her to see. As the two supposed 'adults' speak only thru a lawyer the chance of her ever seeing them together in real life is very slim.

If they are nice to you I would give it time, your relationship is still new to them and by the time baby arrives I'm sure you will feel 'part of the family'

As for my in laws yeah right, I am very uncomfortable in their home and have been since we started dating, I know what they can be like, I spent years going around there as a friend, but I would not accept them trash talking their son (my husband) in front of his children and as that appears to be their favourite hobby we just stopped going around there very often.
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post #11 of 22
1/9/06 at 11:24am
Yes I believe they have... though I need to find out about the will...
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post #12 of 22
1/9/06 at 11:25am
Oh Elaine, that is awful! That would make me very upset!
I totally feel accepted by DH's family but then again I was only 16 when we started dating so I have known them half of my life.
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post #13 of 22
1/9/06 at 11:55am
Yes they did, even before we were married and in high school, now as we are divorced, his mother has shyed away from me, papa still the same as always.
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post #14 of 22
1/9/06 at 11:57am
Yes, from the moment we started dating.
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post #15 of 22
1/9/06 at 11:57am
I never knew my mil but my fil and I got along fine. He told me that I was the best woman Steve has ever met. He didn't care for the other girls Steve dated before he met me.
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post #16 of 22
1/9/06 at 12:16pm
That's so sweet, Cheryl. I remember how hard Steve took his father's death, too.
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post #17 of 22
1/9/06 at 12:40pm
Oh yes.... Sometimes I wish I weren't so accepted. DH was an only child, and they always wanted a girl....

When DH and I were broke up and he was dating someone else, he had to ask his parents to take the picture of me off the mantle. They had this double frame with a picture of me and a picture of him. So his mom took it and put it on her desk at work!!!!
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post #18 of 22
1/9/06 at 1:33pm
Nope, not in the least.... And that is FINE by me.

The funniest part is they LOVED me when we were dating. You figure it would be the other way around. They even sent me flowers when we got engaged!
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post #19 of 22
1/11/06 at 2:09pm
Dana that is too strange.
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post #20 of 22
1/11/06 at 2:32pm
they liked me before dh
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post #21 of 22
1/12/06 at 1:46pm
Hell No! And... I don't mind the least bit!! My MIL is a very bossy B*tch. My husband told everyone he was proposing, except his own parents because he knew they would try to talk him out of it.

It's actually funny because my MIL is hard to read... I thought she may have liked me before we were engaged... but apparently not, we almost didn't have a wedding because of the in-laws.
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post #22 of 22
1/12/06 at 10:49pm
I think after seven years of being around, they have just accepted that I am going to be here.
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