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My NOT-SO-NICE MIL

post #1 of 17
1/18/06 at 1:00pm
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Let me go back to Christmas...

Ever since I have known my MIL she has always cried that she doesn't have any rings to wear. See, she had a surgery like 5 years ago and she gained so much weight they had to cut her rings off, since then she's never had them fixed or has gotten any new ones.

This year for Christmas I thought "what a perfect gift!" Haha- was I mistaken. I searched long and hard for the perfect ring for her. I felt that it wasn't my place to buy her a diamond or anything like that, so I opted to get her birthstone. I spent $600.00 on this damn ring.

I was so excited to give it to her for Christmas, and when I went to her house... I couldn't wait for her to open it with the other gifts, so I gave it to her when I got there.

She looked at it & said, "BLUE IS BAD LUCK"- closed the box and I haven't seen it since. It was her birthstone- a December stone!

Then, a couple of weeks later, she tells my DH that she feels like she is on "pins & needles" when she comes to my house.

Hmmm... must be her excuse for never calling/coming over.

This past Saturday we invited her and the FIL over for my birthday and honestly she makes me so uncomfortable in my own home. She was looking around at everything saying things that just aren't appropriate.

I felt like telling her... Listen, you grouchy, old b@*$% I am young I like things contemporary- mind your own business... your son doesn't seem to mind the decorating.

Gosh, what to do? WHAT TO DO?????
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post #2 of 17
1/18/06 at 1:03pm
I would probably say it. My MIL knows not to mess with me.
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post #3 of 17
1/18/06 at 1:08pm
I can't believe she would say something like that to you! Holy cow!!!!

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post #4 of 17
1/18/06 at 1:14pm
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Some of the things she has done to other ppl are totally unreal. It's like she doesn' t have a heart... and I don't say too much to her because I'm kinda intimidated- don't ask why, I have no idea why I am like that.

Everyone keeps telling me that things will change with her when her first grandchild is born, but it's like I don' t even want her negativity around my children.

I am so sick of arguing with my DH about her... it makes me sick.
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post #5 of 17
1/18/06 at 2:09pm
I would offer (sweetly, of course ) to exchange the ring for a stone she liked better. Heck, offer to take her to the jeweler and pick something out, then do the exchange.

I've never heard that blue is bad luck. December is blue topaz, right? According to this site:
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...it supposedly ... restored sanity, ...
Well, not *everything* they say about the magical properties of gemstones is right, apparently, given your MIL...
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post #6 of 17
1/18/06 at 2:18pm
I'd have to say something to her when she started commenting on my home and I would tell her you're more than happy to let her pick out another stone/ring to exchange for the one you got her. Sounds like she's an unhappy person.
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post #7 of 17
1/18/06 at 2:35pm
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I told her I would take her to get it sized, and then offered her to exchange. She didn't want to hear any of it. It was extremely rude of her... kinda like I affended her by getting her the ring in the first place.

I strongly feel that if I make comments to her when she bashes me- that's it's just going to cause more problems b/t me and her, and me and my DH... this is why I think he should speak up a little because his mother will forgive him before she will me.

That's what I get for marrying a MAMA'S BOY!
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post #8 of 17
1/18/06 at 2:50pm
What a piece of work. She sounds like a crabby old women.
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post #9 of 17
1/18/06 at 2:54pm
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Haha- to say the least! She can my ass!
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post #10 of 17
1/18/06 at 3:16pm
It says that stone restores sanity - guess she would actually have to WEAR the ring for it to work!
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post #11 of 17
1/18/06 at 3:21pm
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That's the God's Honest Truth!!!
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post #12 of 17
1/18/06 at 3:44pm
Speaking from experience here - SPEAK UP NOW !! It will NOT get better until she gets it beaten into her head that YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT !!
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post #13 of 17
1/18/06 at 4:19pm
That is terrible.
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post #14 of 17
1/18/06 at 7:31pm
she sounds like a real
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post #15 of 17
1/19/06 at 11:40am
She sounds like an ungrateful selfish person. Returning it and letting her pick one is a good idea, but with the way she is acting, who even wants to do that? Learn to ignore it, it is just a piece of baggage that came with DH. Don't let her get to you and don't fight over her, then she gets what she wants!
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post #16 of 17
1/21/06 at 8:56pm
i agree with everyone here it will take time i married a mammas boy too
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post #17 of 17
1/23/06 at 3:51pm
Andrea I am so sorry to hear that she makes you feel this way. I do not like what she said about the ring and she did not even acknowledge it. That would of not kept my mouth shut.
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