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post #1 of 7
1/29/06 at 5:12pm
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I decided to take some "me" time today, so Daniel took Nicole to church. I was thinking yay I get a whole hour to myself! NOPE! 30 minutes later Daniel walked in.... Nicole had spent the entire time screaming. Daniel had kept her in the children's room, and he could see the whole congregation turning to look, the pastor stopped preaching, and 2 people came in to make sure he wasn't abusing her!

She does this any time I'm not around, and it's making me nuts! We talked about me getting a part time job, something that will at least cover part time daycare, so that Nicole would get used to me not being around, but that might be a problem since we're TTC, I'm not sure anyone would hire me if I am pregnant.

I know this is a big part my fault, because I come running any time she cries for me, even though I know Daniel is perfectly capable of taking care of her. Also, she's used to me being home all the time, I never leave her with anyone these days. She's not used to one on one time with Daniel, because when he is home I also want to spend time with him, and I end up handling everything with Nicole.

This is just frustrating... Also, Daniel's leaving in the end of February for 6-8 weeks, so I'm feeling like why start trying to "fix" this now when it's going to go back to the same thing while he's gone?

What are some good indoor daddy-baby activities?
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post #2 of 7
1/29/06 at 5:57pm
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post #3 of 7
1/29/06 at 6:08pm
It's not an indoor activity...how about letting Daniel take her for an Ice cream somewhere? or to pick out a "surprise" for you ( thinking Dollar store here - maybe some barrettes, or ponytail holders .. magnet for the fridge...etc) That way she she's alone with him, BUT she has something to look forward to and would be distracted.
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post #4 of 7
1/29/06 at 7:05pm
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Oooh that's a good idea... and that way at least if she does start the screaming they're not interrupting church!
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post #5 of 7
1/29/06 at 9:25pm
as for someone not hiring you because you're pregnant, they can't really do that. If you WANT a parttime job start looking, if you get hired right now no one would know if you were pregnant or not.

Good luck getting some time to yourself, hopefully Nicole will learn that it's ok to be without mom.
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post #6 of 7
1/29/06 at 9:33pm
I have had this happen with all my 3 boys and Brent their daddy at one point or another we started out by having me go into my room or take a bath and he played with them downstairs for awhile doing something they loved to do, or taking a walk around the neighborhood with them.

I also at one time found a mom group where there was a "nursery" or classroom that the kids went to while the moms spent time getting to know each other etc that ways you are there but she is not exactly with you. You get a little time to yourself while meeting others and she might get used to being around others.

Hope this helps a little, take small steps and one day she will be ready to be left with dad or the church nursery with out you...it will take time
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post #7 of 7
1/29/06 at 9:45pm
Meghan...it's a phase. Remember when we were going through it with Emmaela. She wouldnt' go in the nursery at chuch or anything. She's MUCH better now. It took a while, but it's better. I think you need to find a babysitter. Put up an ad or something. Or take advantage of that coop. Anything that will seperate her from you for a couple hours. It WILL work...she probably won't like it at first, but it will work in time. Good luck. IM me if you want to talk.
I wish I was there to help. I'd bring her over here in a heartbeat! You know I love that baby!
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