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Another Justin issue -need more advice

post #1 of 7
2/10/06 at 9:29am
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I need advice on what to do to get Justin to stop biting!

Lately, he has been on this biting binge. Thankfully not at school, but just in regards to Brandon. Now I know Brandon antaganizes him, he gets in his face, etc. Justins comeback is to bite or scratch (I have cut his nails so that seems to have stopped). Last week, they were in bed and I don't know, but Brandon said Justin bit him on the nose. There was no mark. Then this morning, while I was in the shower, Justin bit Brandon pretty good on the side of the face, it broke the skin. Brandon scratched him in the face as his comeback.

So I get to school, run down their respective injuries so they know it didn't happen there and I tell the director, I guess this weekend, I will be biting Justin back. She said they say not to do that and said just reprimand him.

What do you all do? I have reprimanded him, again with time out and/or spanking on the behind, but it doesn't work. I don't want him to do this in school. I know there are incidents of others doing it, and he has been bitten twice in school, so I am sure that is where he is learning it. But he handled it himself when it happened to him by telling the kid no and grabbing his face. So why can't he do that with Brandon when Brandon annoys him instead of biting him???

HELP!!!
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post #2 of 7
2/10/06 at 9:33am
When I worked as a daycare teacher I had two choice's time out or liquid soap on the tongue, just a little. When time out did not work five times then the soap came and if they continued I continued with the soap, just a dab, also let parents know, we worked as a team.
At home for my child or cousin, bite back and said does not feel so good does it? Then I have the friend that did bite back and left a mark but no broken skin and the mom was all for it but the dad was not and ended up suing her for it, so hard to tell, wishing you the best of luck Jennifer. I say try the soap, I am sure he will not like the taste of that.
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post #3 of 7
2/10/06 at 9:42am
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My neighbors son went through this and she said eventually she had to bite him, hard and that stopped it.
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post #4 of 7
2/10/06 at 10:01am
Here's an article I stumbled on when I was looking for information on teaching empathy -

Love at First Bite?

When Toddlers Terrorize With
Their Teeth

June Cook, a mother of two boys, did not have a problem with her older son, Adam, 4, using his teeth as a natural weapon. However, Cook, of Tampa, Fla., had her hands full with her youngest son, Eric, 2, who often chose his brother as a prime victim.

http://toddlerstoday.com/resources/a.../firstbite.htm

My dd was a bad biter and now she scratches some. This is basically the method we used. Fortunately, she was not around other children, so no other kids got bitten. Now, we say to her, "I know you're angry (upset) and that's okay, but we don't scratch. Scratching hurts. Do you like it when Wally (our cat) scratches you? It hurts, doesn't it?"

We also physically restrained her to prevent her from biting and talked to her about her emotions. We try hard to teach her what her emotions are and that they are okay, but the actions (biting or scratching) is not.

Best of luck to you, Jennifer. We've been there too.
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post #5 of 7
2/10/06 at 12:54pm
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Thanks Grace, that was a great article. Found a couple of other articles on their that I can use too!
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post #6 of 7
2/10/06 at 1:56pm
I have a friend who swears by the biting back method.
When I was babysitting, a had a child who would bite, and finally, I got tired of it and pinched him right on his shoulder where the neck and the shoulder meet. He didn't like it and never bit again.
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post #7 of 7
2/16/06 at 2:45pm
That's a great article Grace(with the exception of the lady who 'tapped' the kids mouth).

This is about how I respond, never had a problem with biting, so it must work...
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When your child bites another child, respond in a calm manner. "Go immediately to the child who has been bitten and say, 'Oh, that hurts,' and comfort the child," Deerwester says. "Get ready with your ice, an anti-bacterial wipe and clean up the child and give a lot of attention to that child first. Then go to the other child, who has done the biting, and point to the child who is crying or injured and say, 'Look, he is sad. He is crying because you hurt him.'" Parents can also say to their biter in a serious tone, "I don't want you to bite."
I don't think you should bite back. You would just be enforcing the message that it's okay to hurt someone if you don't like what they are doing.
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