Ok I don't even know where to start. I am kind of upset with the things Tori has been saying and I don't know if she is learning them somewhere or just being a normal opinionated 4 yr old, but I will NOT have her saying this stuff.
About a month ago, my mom came over and referred to herself as "Grandma" when she was talking to Chelsey. Tori made it a point to say that it was HER grandma NOT Chelsey's because I am Chelsey's step-mom and Chelsey has her own grandma. My mom and I both corrected her that night and told her we both love Chelsey too and she IS Chelsey's grandma too. The conversation got dropped after that.
Well, tonight I was in bed with a migraine and my MIL came by. The girls were talking to her and I stayed in bed. Well, when she was leaving she told Chelsey to "Tell your mom I hope she feels better" and I overheard Tori saying "No, it's my mom, she's Chelsey's step-mother" My headache was too bad to get up right then and I don't know if I should bring attention to it or not.
She's only 4 and really I think just trying to understand why Devan and Chelsey call me Amy and why they are gone at THEIR mom's sometimes. I REFUSE to let Tori talk like that though. I have 2 older half-sisters and didn't even realize they weren't my "real" sisters (I don't even like the word "real") until I was 11 or 12. My parents made it a point to raise us all as sisters and nothing more. One of my sisters lived with her mom and I knew she was there all the time, but I never even thought about it much. My other sister's dad died when she was 4 so my dad raised her and she called him Dad etc.
I just don't even know what to do. I don't make a big deal at all about the other two not being mine. As a matter of fact, I generally refer to them as my kids. I'm kind of worried that she is learning it at the baby-sitters because I know she tells her step-daughter that the other kids both at her house and her mom's house are her half-siblings and I cannot stand it.
Chelsey is 12 and I honestly don't think it bothers her but it does ME. When Chelsey was little she was always so upset because Adam and Danielle weren't together and she didn't have any "real siblings". We got past that, but now MY daughter is making her feel that way.
Should she get in trouble for it? Should I ignore it and hope it goes away soon? I'm completely clueless. I'm gonna call my mom tonight and ask her how she handled it b/c surely at one point I was curious about Betsy and have just forgotten.
About a month ago, my mom came over and referred to herself as "Grandma" when she was talking to Chelsey. Tori made it a point to say that it was HER grandma NOT Chelsey's because I am Chelsey's step-mom and Chelsey has her own grandma. My mom and I both corrected her that night and told her we both love Chelsey too and she IS Chelsey's grandma too. The conversation got dropped after that.
Well, tonight I was in bed with a migraine and my MIL came by. The girls were talking to her and I stayed in bed. Well, when she was leaving she told Chelsey to "Tell your mom I hope she feels better" and I overheard Tori saying "No, it's my mom, she's Chelsey's step-mother" My headache was too bad to get up right then and I don't know if I should bring attention to it or not.
She's only 4 and really I think just trying to understand why Devan and Chelsey call me Amy and why they are gone at THEIR mom's sometimes. I REFUSE to let Tori talk like that though. I have 2 older half-sisters and didn't even realize they weren't my "real" sisters (I don't even like the word "real") until I was 11 or 12. My parents made it a point to raise us all as sisters and nothing more. One of my sisters lived with her mom and I knew she was there all the time, but I never even thought about it much. My other sister's dad died when she was 4 so my dad raised her and she called him Dad etc.
I just don't even know what to do. I don't make a big deal at all about the other two not being mine. As a matter of fact, I generally refer to them as my kids. I'm kind of worried that she is learning it at the baby-sitters because I know she tells her step-daughter that the other kids both at her house and her mom's house are her half-siblings and I cannot stand it.
Chelsey is 12 and I honestly don't think it bothers her but it does ME. When Chelsey was little she was always so upset because Adam and Danielle weren't together and she didn't have any "real siblings". We got past that, but now MY daughter is making her feel that way.
Should she get in trouble for it? Should I ignore it and hope it goes away soon? I'm completely clueless. I'm gonna call my mom tonight and ask her how she handled it b/c surely at one point I was curious about Betsy and have just forgotten.
I hope all goes well.
