Refusing to do things

tthat can be a pain in the butt !! have you tried rewards with her or making a chart ??

I would try ot find places where she HAS to talk to interact. someplace to play or some thing where everyone is talking and you can understand them. Try adn get her out more to talk.

Can't help ya on the dressing herself part. Alyssa ALWAYS did it until Kate was born and now she needs help everyday.

As far as the potty I just plopped Lyssa in underwear during the day. IF she wanted to be clean & dry then she used the potty. I didnt do anything special other than cheer and clap when she used the potty.

Gosh, I dunno. I have the opposite problem with Payton lately. She wants to do everything on her own which can be somewhat frustrating to Mommies too Ok, let's see if my tatics for getting Payton to let me help her with things will work for the opposite When Payton is trying something that she obviously can't do on her own yet I ask her if Mommy can help first and she can finish. So why not try this with Kate? Start doing something (like putting on her pants) and then ask her if she can help you buy pulling them up the rest of the way. Or she can put on her shoes and you tie them for her.
With the potty I say she is definitely old enough and smart enough to be going on her own. Make sure she has a potty she can reach on her own. Payton regressed when I was babysitting Hattie and now that she has my full attention she is doing fabulously. I say put the child in panties and just be ready for lots of clean ups for awhile. Praise her and praise her (which I am sure you already know) and reward her with something she loves the most. Do not push her because that will just make her be more bullheaded and not want to potty but just explain to her that she is at the age where she only gets pullups at bedtime and during the day she will only have panties. Ask her if she needs to go potty during the course of the day but do not force her to sit on it. If you see her grunting like she is going to go poop grab her up and RUN to the potty!LOL! Sit her lil tooshie on it and read her a book, Payton loved that and thought it was so funny to see mommy hightail her to the potty but she soon took the notion to sit on it herself to go poop. Right now we are having some issues with it again actually so be ready for setbacks and just take them with a grain of salt. She will get the hang of it soon.

Logan is capable of dressing him self, going potty by himself, all those thing. He refuses. Partly for attention, partly to see me get frustrated, partly bc Samantha likes to baby him. All of the above drive me nuts and I am constatnly trying to correct all of it. I admit I have birbed Logan with a quarter to get himself dressed on occasions when I am running really late in the am but it does not always work. I find he is great when he does not go to his dads much but the weekes when he is there 2 nights during the week we have major isses at home and the sitters.

Sorry to hijack your thread just wanted you to know Logan is the same way at times.

OMG girl I am STILL fighting with liz a lot of the time to get her to do things

on the talking part, can you tell her when she starts to babble that you don't understand her and that you only understand when she talks like a big girl? I do that with rhyne (especially when she's whining, I tell her I don't understand whine and if she wants to tell me something then she'd better talk big)