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How do you talk to your kids about sex, drugs and alcohol?

post #1 of 12
3/18/06 at 11:10am
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How can you tell?
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post #2 of 12
3/18/06 at 11:54pm
When I was home the last few weeks I used Dr Phil and Oprah They are on between 3pm and 5pm and I would watch them (if they were interesting) and would use them to spring board conversations.

Otherwise I wait until something comes up on the tv or the radio and let the conversation develop from there rather than making an issue of bringing it up and making a big deal about it. At 14 that is still working and I have done it for years. I'm hoping that if it becomes a problem they will come and talk to me about it.

If I notice a problem seens to be developong (like Tk's cutting) I will ask about whatever symptoms I notice.
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post #3 of 12
3/19/06 at 7:48am
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I am hoping Alisha will stay open with me just like she has, yes for a little bit she was closed mouth abou the cutting but we got her on track, I think, she be safe for awhile now (Knock on wood, Spit spit) Do not want to jinx any of this. Maree we do need to talk, have something funny to tell you about Ali and you will die of laughter or shame. I would really hate to be a kid these days. Not like when we were kids at all.
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post #4 of 12
3/19/06 at 5:59pm
OK Hun, next time I see you on line I will IM you

Can't wait to hear the story
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post #5 of 12
3/20/06 at 10:31am
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Sounds good.
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post #6 of 12
3/23/06 at 1:01am
Honestly! You must be honest with your child above everything else. Warn your child of all the evils out in this world of ours but don't scare him or her. My daughter is now talking to her 12 year-old just as I spoke to her when she was that age and came to me and started to ask questions. Do it with love and caring and your child will know that you have her best interest at heart.
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post #7 of 12
3/23/06 at 11:43am
Hi,

I don't post often, because I work full-time & don't have a lot of computer time. From what I read, Annie Q's daughter has been cutting (I hope I read that right). Anyway, I have had trouble with my daughter cutting since she was 14. She is 16. I did have her admitted to a behavioral health center when she was 14, which helped, but she still cuts if anything upsetting happens. I am trying to teach her other ways to express her emotions other than through cutting. I talked to a lady in another group, who says she is a cutter (she's in her 20's) & she says that urge to cut is always with you, so you will always have to watch her closely, especially during times of stress. And you need to be on the lookout for things she can cut herself with. My daughter would break CD's, compact mirrors. She would break open those small pencil sharpeners to get the blade, so I check her room often for small, sharp objects that she could use. My fear is that one day she may cut deeper than she planned & end up killing herself.

Well, you may already know all this, but this is just advice from someone who has been dealing with this for 2 years.

Laura
Mississippi
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post #8 of 12
3/23/06 at 2:16pm
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ghc great advice and Laura you are right I do have a cutter for a daughter and yes they do find anything to cut with and I to have delt with it for 3years now. The newest thing is Alisha pierced her lip was it for the pain, she says NO but was it? Sometimes I feel she does not always know. If you ever need to talk PM or e-mail me I will listen or suggest things if I can and we can help one another. Thanks for posting.
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post #9 of 12
3/23/06 at 2:22pm
I already talk to Haley about drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, strangers...you name it, we've probably talked about it. I don't do it in a way to scare her, but I want her to be aware of her surroundings. She's eager to learn and asks tons of questions. I figured that starting an open line of communication with her now will help when she is older. I want her to know that she can tell me anything.
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post #10 of 12
3/27/06 at 12:31am
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Natalie that is so great that you are doing that already, never to early to start.
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post #11 of 12
3/27/06 at 1:36am
My dd is almost three, but we have told her how my grandmother was an addict and how addiction runs in our family. She doesn't really understand because she's never see it - thank goodness! But we've let her know that it exists. I can't seperate talking about my grandma from drugs and alchol - they were such a large part of her life. Dh's grandfather was an alcholic. He can't mention his grandpa in the same breathe without alchol, because the man literally drank nothing else.

I think it's important for dd to know even at this age that addiction runs in both sides of her family and there are a lot of different kinds of addiction. - Unfortunately.
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post #12 of 12
3/27/06 at 3:20pm
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Your off to a running start, headed down the right path in my book.
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