We Really Need Advice On This Please

Ok, Austin had a incident in school today. I am not happy at all about what he did.
At recess when they were lined up waiting to go in, there was a little girl behind him and a friend of his behind her. Well they were goofing around (to make a long story short) the little girl bent over and Austin put his hand down the back of her pants, at her butt into her underwear.
I am so upset and embarassed. The school called me on their cell phone and told me what happend and that they were keeping Austin in the office for the rest of the afternoon until the end of school. They called the parents of the little girl and they know about. Austin has to apologize to the girl tomorrow, he has lost all recess privilages for the week and he is grounded from EVERYTHING here at home.

The thing I am not to keen on is they want Austin to talk to a social worker and find out "why he did it". Ok, i am furious about that, and Rich and I have discussed it and he wont be talking to any social worker about it. I get that the school has things they need to take care of but give me a break. They make it out like my kid is some sexual predator. He knows what he did was REALLY wrong because he was crying at the office and crying here at the house. I dont want some social worker talking to my kid to put crap in his head.
I have talked to the grandparents and Rich about it and they all say the same, no. I could see if this was a occuring thing with him, but it is not and wont be.

What would you do? Let him talk to a social worker or not, and why?
Thanks for letting me vent!

Dawn you and I think alike, everything you have said, is what I have been saying to Rich and the grandparents. Austin knows what he did was wrong and is being punished for it.

Then my dad said exactly what Mel said, he may have to talk to someone. I really wish Rich would get his info right when he talked to the principal. He says now, I dont know if it is a social worker or what UGH!!!! I will wait till the note comes home tomorrow or wait for them to call me. I hope his teacher calls me tonight though. That way I can tell her everything and get it over with

The thing that is really peeving me off is that Rich says, I dont know if it is a social worker or not. If it is, and it is not that he HAS to talk to one, then he wont be. But if it is just the school councilor(sp?) then yes I will let them talk to him. The thing is is that he is a 6 year old kid, being stupid and doing something stupid. Its not like he is some sexual pervert. I will just have to wait for a note to come home to see what it is they want him to do. I could definitley see if he was alot older or in highschool and touched a girl, that would be a huge deal.
He has lost privilages at school and at home, he even thinks he is grounded from easter He does know what he did was wrong and he was to apologize to the girl today.
As far as I am concerned it is end of story.


Thank you all for your wonderful advice and thanks Dawn for chatting to me

I have honestly been so stressed about this all day. Actually upset, almost in tears.
So as soon as Rich got the kids home from school I called him to see what the note said. Well there was no note. So I am assuming the school is just going to drop it. Which I hope. I totally agree with everyone here to. The girls at work to said do not have him talk to a social worker, sometimes they can make matters worse.
We talked to him yesturday really good about it. Today before school he said how sad it made him feel of the wrong thing he did. He apologized to her today and he said he had a good day. He was able to go out for recess, but he had to stay with the recess supervisor. He is grounded here now from just a couple of things. I told him how proud I was for him apologizing to her and knowing how wrong it was.
Ugh, I am glad it is over. To much going on this week, I cant take anymore.

I may not be on BBU as much, but I want to let you all know how much I truly appreciate your honesty and advice and friendship