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Is this normal?

post #1 of 6
4/30/06 at 8:10pm
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Austin for the past couple days has been extremly mean to me.. I don't know what his problem is.

yesterday he was cleaning up the living room, which was a disaster, and he was mad at me because I made him clean it up, anyway he came in and looked at me and glared and said 'Mom you are nothing' I grabbed him up and told him to never speak to me like that again and I smacked his mouth.

Today, well just a little bit ago, he brings me in this paper he's been drawing on and it wrote "i do not -drew a pic of a heart that was broken- you" and drew mean faces all over it.

What is up. He's sitting in 'time out' right now, because honestly I don't want to lay a hand on him at this point because I may beat his butt until it's black and blue..

He's 5.. he should no way in h*ll be talking to me like that. He's got an anger issue right now and I don't know what to do about it.
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post #2 of 6
4/30/06 at 8:42pm
I'm not sure if it is normal or not but I do know that none of my four kids have ever spoken to me like that or drawn mean pictures. Does he lash out a lot verbally or physically? If he does then I would definitely take him to see someone about managing his anger. Does anything like bipolar or depression run in the family?
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post #3 of 6
4/30/06 at 9:13pm
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My Aunt is bipolar. she was just diagnosed with bipolar, manic depression about a year ago. She's 47.

His teacher has never said anything about he acting out like that in class or anything, she said he gets along very well with students at school.

When he comes home he says that nobody likes him, and that he doesn't have any friends. Today he also called himself 'nothing'

He said earlier that he told me he didn't love me because he thinks I love Dylan more than him, and that I think Dylan is cuter than him.

I explained to him that i loved both of them equally, and that they mean more to me than anyone else in the world, and that it hurt me when he talked to me like that.

If it keeps much longer.. i'll definitely talk to his pediatrician, I just wasn't sure if it was an 'age' thing. I never remember speaking to my mom like that.. ever. But I don't remember being 5 either.. LOL
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post #4 of 6
4/30/06 at 10:22pm
Johnny just got diagnosed with Bipolar this past Jan. but he had lots of trouble with anger and mood swings at a VERY young age. He has also been diagnosed as ADD now as well. Back in the 70s they just didn't know much about these kinds of problems. He has ALWAYS had issues with low self esteem too but I am not sure if that is associated with his diagnosis or not. I would definitely keep an eye on his behavior and then speak to his ped.
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post #5 of 6
5/1/06 at 12:50am
Sounds like a self esteem issue to me. If someone else is making him feel that way than maybe it helps him to lash out at someone else in a similar way. I would talk to his ped and his teacher and see what advice they have.
And I know it hurts but try not to react with punishment when he says or does something like that. Instead I would try to respond casually with something like "I am not nothing, I'm your mommy and I love you". Haley used to tell me she hated me all the time and I would just tell her that it was okay for her to hate me but I would always love her.
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post #6 of 6
5/1/06 at 8:57am
OH I so feel your pain. Could be growing pains..if he is getting ready to go through a big growth spurt they get really angry and hormones running wild and dont know what to do with anger/emotions. Sounds like someone has said something to him and it is really eating at him. You are doing the right thing in talking and really getting to the root of the problem. Show him a little more one on one and have some heart to hearts. I would talk to the doc about it too just to cover bases. All my boys are closer to Ryan than they are me..so they will tell him things they wont tell me so he takes them aside and they spill their guts. They know that they are better off telling Daddy about their problems than keeping them inside and getting in trouble for them later acting out or havin a chip on their shoulders. We have to do "attitude checks"..we let them know they are having an attitude and let them sit and think about it for a minute. I hope he gets better for you!! GL
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