I have a family matter that I have been bouncing back and forth with in my head... I dont know how much detail I can/should get into here...
And I know some people will think I am going to the extreme ... but something in my GUT is just telling me something isn't right.
And all it comes down to (for me).... is everyone thought Lacey and Scott Peterson were happy, and Scott was so calm and never yelled or anything .... And same with Lori and Mark Hacking ..... no one ever suspected .... I just wonder if there was someone - one person, who maybe had some weird suspicion and there was nothing they could really do???
Basically - out of the blue, my BIL decided to look for a job, about 2000 miles away from where we live. He told my sister when he was going for the interview it was a great opportunity. She has begged him and pleaded that she did not want to go. She is crying every day, and miserable starting to hate him... They have 2 kids... He starts this new job in 3 weeks - their house went on the market yesteday. She keeps telling him no, she doesnt want to move and begging - but they still are. (If she didn't want to move but was willing to give it a try and just nervous that would be one thing, but she really does not want to go... if one of us was that adamant about not moving, then the other would have to respect the wishes even if it was disappointing)
I have told her that just because they are married doesn't mean she has to pick up and move with him... She is a SAHM, and he pays the bills so I know she feels that she needs to support him. I feel this is a total selfish move on his part.... he didn;t look for anything around here... just sounds fishy. Maybe I am way off base ... but there is more to this move than just a career change...
At what point do you get involved?? Do I tell her, even though he is a calm rational guy this is reminding me of these horrible crimes?
He is well aware of the fact that I am not pleased with the decision, and I go back and forth feeling bad that he isnt getting the support- to anger that he would do this knowing it is 100% against her will.
And I know some people will think I am going to the extreme ... but something in my GUT is just telling me something isn't right.
And all it comes down to (for me).... is everyone thought Lacey and Scott Peterson were happy, and Scott was so calm and never yelled or anything .... And same with Lori and Mark Hacking ..... no one ever suspected .... I just wonder if there was someone - one person, who maybe had some weird suspicion and there was nothing they could really do???
Basically - out of the blue, my BIL decided to look for a job, about 2000 miles away from where we live. He told my sister when he was going for the interview it was a great opportunity. She has begged him and pleaded that she did not want to go. She is crying every day, and miserable starting to hate him... They have 2 kids... He starts this new job in 3 weeks - their house went on the market yesteday. She keeps telling him no, she doesnt want to move and begging - but they still are. (If she didn't want to move but was willing to give it a try and just nervous that would be one thing, but she really does not want to go... if one of us was that adamant about not moving, then the other would have to respect the wishes even if it was disappointing)
I have told her that just because they are married doesn't mean she has to pick up and move with him... She is a SAHM, and he pays the bills so I know she feels that she needs to support him. I feel this is a total selfish move on his part.... he didn;t look for anything around here... just sounds fishy. Maybe I am way off base ... but there is more to this move than just a career change...
At what point do you get involved?? Do I tell her, even though he is a calm rational guy this is reminding me of these horrible crimes?
He is well aware of the fact that I am not pleased with the decision, and I go back and forth feeling bad that he isnt getting the support- to anger that he would do this knowing it is 100% against her will.
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