I have to start by saying that Shane's parents had decided not to make any effort to see Brenna because they were upset that she was going to be moving back to NC with me. I don't know who they thought they were punishing with that one but in my opinion it was pretty crappy. Shane's mom did come over the day we came home and spent a few minutes with her but his father hasn't seen her at all.
So anyway this morning I get an email from his mother...
Dear Elaine,
I am sorry things did not work out for you and Shane.I would love to keep in
touch with you and hope you send me pictures of Brenna once in awhile.I hope
I can still be apart of her life.There is nothing more precious than a
child.I do not want Brenna to think when she gets older that her dads
parents did not care for her because we do .It is tearing Joe and I apart
because she has to leave,but I guess it is Shane's decision.
Take care,
Cindy
I thought it was nice of her to write me and I replied saying that things didn't turn out the way I wanted them to and that I know it was hard for him to do but Shane made his decision and I know he feels it is the right one for him. I let her know that I would like Brenna to know her family, I don't think it is fair to punish her for our mistake, and that I would do everything I could to make sure she is back up here as often as possible.
Shane came home and I told him that she wrote me (my mother did the same with Shane and he told me) and let him read it. A few minutes later he got really angry and said "You know why she wrote that? They want me to convince you to stay in Ohio" and then he stormed out the door.
I'm so confused now and I don't understand if she was trying to make me feel guilty for something I have no control over or if she was just upset because Shane said I wasn't going to stay. I wish he had stayed and explained to me what he meant instead of running off and leaving me feeling guilty for taking her away. I honestly don't know what anyone wants from me and it doesn't seem like anyone realizes or cares what I'm going through right now. I watch Shane with Brenna every day and it kills me but it wasn't my choice to leave. If I had the power to fix any of this I would but I can't do anything other than accept what is happening.
So anyway this morning I get an email from his mother...
Dear Elaine,
I am sorry things did not work out for you and Shane.I would love to keep in
touch with you and hope you send me pictures of Brenna once in awhile.I hope
I can still be apart of her life.There is nothing more precious than a
child.I do not want Brenna to think when she gets older that her dads
parents did not care for her because we do .It is tearing Joe and I apart
because she has to leave,but I guess it is Shane's decision.
Take care,
Cindy
I thought it was nice of her to write me and I replied saying that things didn't turn out the way I wanted them to and that I know it was hard for him to do but Shane made his decision and I know he feels it is the right one for him. I let her know that I would like Brenna to know her family, I don't think it is fair to punish her for our mistake, and that I would do everything I could to make sure she is back up here as often as possible.
Shane came home and I told him that she wrote me (my mother did the same with Shane and he told me) and let him read it. A few minutes later he got really angry and said "You know why she wrote that? They want me to convince you to stay in Ohio" and then he stormed out the door.
I'm so confused now and I don't understand if she was trying to make me feel guilty for something I have no control over or if she was just upset because Shane said I wasn't going to stay. I wish he had stayed and explained to me what he meant instead of running off and leaving me feeling guilty for taking her away. I honestly don't know what anyone wants from me and it doesn't seem like anyone realizes or cares what I'm going through right now. I watch Shane with Brenna every day and it kills me but it wasn't my choice to leave. If I had the power to fix any of this I would but I can't do anything other than accept what is happening.
