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As if I didn't feel bad enough about myself

post #1 of 17
6/26/06 at 9:44am
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This weekend we went to the aquarium. You have to go through security much like the airport. I am pushing the double stroller with Justin and Ryan. A security guy waves me to the side, and checks my bag. He says I didn't want you to have to go through there with the stroller, and I saw that you were expecting so you should go through that. I said I am NOT expecting. He apologized but it ruined my day and pretty much has me so upset that all I can think about is what a fat ass I am right now. DH couldn't understand why it hurt my feelings so much. I keep alternating between I just need to fast, to I need to find some pill, etc.

My resolve is to join the gym once we get this financing money in. The hospital here has one and go on my lunch hour. I also am looking into Michael Thurmonds 6 week body makeover program or doing the mediterranean diet. It is too hard for me to do S/B because I feel like I am depriving myself not allowing any carbs. Besides, I know once you go back to eating them, that you gain it back and then some.

I am just so depressed about myself. I know I had a baby, but the reality is, I was overweight when I got pregnant and much of that weight (25 lbs I gained) is gone and I am back where I started. I do have this ball still in my belly, which does make me look pregnant still. When does that go away?

Thanks for listening to my pity party...
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post #2 of 17
6/26/06 at 10:10am
Lemme be totally honest with you these diets that you are speaking of when you stop eating that way you are going to gain it right back. I lost 40+ lb it took 4 months but I ate. High protein but did not omit carbs I just went EXACTLY by portion size. My daily regime is Grape Nuts/Grape Nuts Trail mix skim milk, 1/2 cup of fruit or cottage cheese for breakfast. Lowfat wrap sandwich for lunch (lots of veggies inside and lots of protein grilled chicken beef etc) with fruit cup or jello sometimes cottage cheese. Then for dinner steamed veggies/salad and grilled fish/chicken and brown rice. snack at least 2 hours before dinner sugarfree/fatfree pudding. I go to the gym 5 days a week if I do not go to the gym I take the kids for a walk and if Will is in the stroller I jog. I did the southbeach/atkins/medeteranina and I ALWAYS gained it back. With this if I want a piece of cake I eat a SMALL piece of cake. Also if I have a sweet craving I will eat dark chocolate. 1 Piece I have 100 more pounds to lose hope this makes you feel better and helps
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post #3 of 17
6/26/06 at 10:19am
Girl .. you look beautiful!!! Don't worry about what some stupid man said. ANY woman would know better that to think you are preggo!!

I started the Sonoma Diet online this weekend and so far so good. It is VERY LITTLE changes in my diet that are lifestyle changes that I can continue. I believe that lifestyle changes will work MUCH better than fad diets.

Ok and there is always the Golden Clinic My sister went and I would LOVe to go!!!
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post #4 of 17
6/26/06 at 10:33am
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What is the golden clinic? I know the fads don't work, I have done them before. I lost weight before my wedding by eating smarter and walked alot because I didn't have a car and took buses to get to work. If the 1st bus was late, I walked the route I went on the 2nd. But that was before 3 babies. The mediterranean is a way of life, something that you would continue on, which the whole grains, veggies, fish and chicken. My problem is portion size. And it seems the more depressed I get, the more I eat crappy. But for me, I need something that I will see some results quickly to keep me motivated. The 6 week body makeover sounds like a good plan because it teaches you to eat for your body type. Not to omit foods, but it the proper combinations and portions, to increase your metabolism, which mine is at a halt. It doesn't help that I have a thyroid disorder and need to get that checked also. Not to mention, I am not breastfeeding so I am not getting that help. I am thinking of trying to get back into evening feedings (that's another post). I already know I am going to join the gym and will pay for some trainer time to get a routine down. I have to do at lunch, because I know there is no way to get it done after I get home.

I know the guy was an I mean cmon there is an INFANT in my stroller. Dumba$$, but it was all it took to just throw me into the dumps. I guess you can say that was my rock bottom it is time to get on track, no more playing around.
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post #5 of 17
6/26/06 at 11:08am
The Golden Clinic is where my sister had her lipo. They talk about it on The Bert Show all the time. She had a great experience with it and it was inexpensive .. like $1500 for three areas.
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post #6 of 17
6/26/06 at 11:36am
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Oh that's right. My friend just had a tummy tuck ($10,000 ) and I am so jealous! But after that, the doctor tells her if she would do lipo she'd lose 3 more inches... Sounds like he wants to keep lining his pockets! When I saw her after surgery, even with the girdle thing she had to have on, you could see a huge difference. Maybe someday... I'll get the package and tummy done. But only after I lose weight and get in shape and see that is my last alternative.

What is the sonoma diet?
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post #7 of 17
6/26/06 at 11:52am
http://www.sonomadiet.com/publicsite...5D6F5D256&np=1
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post #8 of 17
6/26/06 at 11:58am
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How much is it? It looks much like the Mediterranean Diet philosophy.
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post #9 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:00pm
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post #10 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:05pm
you JUST HAD A BABY!!!! Obviously the guy was clueless....

You have to give yourself a break!!!
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post #11 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:10pm
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post #12 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:27pm


you are so hard on yourself. i hope you can find the combination that works for you
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post #13 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:38pm


Don't be so hard on yourself. Nobody said a word to me or seemed to think I was pregnant before I had the baby, but I got asked several times afterwards when I was due.
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post #14 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:44pm
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Dina
you JUST HAD A BABY!!!! Obviously the guy was clueless....

You have to give yourself a break!!!
I know, I tell myself that, DH tells me that. I know it takes 9 months to gain the weight, you have to give yourself time. In my heart, I know that to be true, but I can't help it. I see all these thin people who are constantly on diets and don't need to be. I know that this was my 3rd pregnancy and my body has changed and to give myself a break. But how do you tell that to your brain when all you see around you are people who aren't happy with themselves and constantly having this stick thin images thrown in your face and every cover of magazines are showcasing these stars who just had babies, 5 weeks and all weight gone? I know they have trainers and I am sure there is surgery involved, because it doesn't work that way. But again, I can't make myself think that way.
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post #15 of 17
6/26/06 at 12:47pm
Guys can be so dumb sometimes. Don't be so hard on yourself. If you are interested in dieting find one that works for you. If you starve yourself or are on a diet with food you don't like it won't work.
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post #16 of 17
6/26/06 at 5:17pm
I agree with Tonya about finding the right eating plan for you. I also agree with these other ladies. Give yourself a break. I think you are so pretty, and when I saw you in the fall, I thought you looked GREAT and you were pregnant then.
I did Weight Watchers about seven years ago and I loved it. It was so flexible, and I had a lot of freedom with my eating, which was nice.
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post #17 of 17
6/27/06 at 2:12pm
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Thank you Tammy. Your sweet.
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