BabyUniversity.com › Forums › Ages & Stages › Terrific "T"s › My kid is a brat!
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

My kid is a brat!

post #1 of 7
7/5/06 at 7:04pm
Thread Starter 
I don't what happened to my child but ever since he turned three, he's been a holy terror. He hits, screams, rebels, everything is "I don't want to." I just don't know what to do. He's fine everywhere but at home. I wonder if I have spoiled him. He won't leave me alone, so I don't get any time to myself. He pretty much plays quietly when my husband has him. He follows me around the house constantly wanting snacks, tv, for me to see something, etc. If he doesn't get his way, he says things like "I don't like you anymore." Right now he is in his crib b/c he was shrieking b/c I wouldn't let him snack all day. It is time for tough love but I don't know if I have it in me. I'm about ready to call Nanny 911 and I'm serious. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Reply
post #2 of 7
7/5/06 at 8:12pm
You know, my boys were worse at 3 than the supposed terrible twos. All I can say is be consistent. Whenever one of my boys threw a fit, I stepped over him and walked away. He wants attention and walking away always worked here. Honestly, he will just have to grow out of it, and once he sees that you won't give him the time of day when he is a butt, he will stop. But make sure you do what you say, if you give in, he will always assume you will give in. When I told my boys with a cartload of groceries to stop or we would leave, they didn't stop. So I took them out of the cart and we left. It may be more work to have to return later to shop, but at least they see you do what you say....

I'll stop babbling now. GL and remember that we all go through it!
Reply
post #3 of 7
7/6/06 at 12:27am
I was about to say the same thing. My dd acts exactly like that sometimes. This too shall pass.
Reply
post #4 of 7
7/6/06 at 9:50am
Yep, 3 is worse.... although Justin has been a real butt lately, acting the same way and he is 2 1/2. Close enough to 3. I do what is suggested above. If he tells me he doesn't like me, I tell him I am sorry to hear that because I love him. You have to ignore it, even though it hurts. Justin tells me I am not his friend. I have taken up the wooden spoon also. There is one in every room. All I have to do is pick it up and his attitude straightens up. Just be firm. Be consistent. When he acts like that, ignore him. Tell him when he can talk nicely, to come back and see you. Good luck. It does get better.
Reply
post #5 of 7
7/6/06 at 10:17am
Jimmy just turned 4 in April and does some of the same things. However I do use tough love. I use time outs and I will sometimes even say if you don't go play you will be grounded. We just started grounding because timeouts don't work as well anymore. The grounding works and he understands that means no tv no electronics and no friends. He has gotten to the point where he has become remorsful as well and will appologize when he does something wrong.
Reply
post #6 of 7
7/6/06 at 10:20am
I 100% agree. Ryan never had the terrible 2's... 2's were great, it was 3 when he got his independence... and the phrases that came from daycare that we get at home are the same ... You are not my friend.... I don't like you... Fine..... I dont care about you... etc ...

Only now (at 4 1/2) are we working to stop the bad phrases and words that come out - And I agree with Dana ... no false threats... if you say something - DO IT.

Its rough but we all have been there
Reply
post #7 of 7
7/6/06 at 3:39pm
Thread Starter 
Wow, I'm not alone. Well I am trying my best to be patient. Sometimes I break down and cry a little, it's so frustrating.
Reply
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: Terrific "T"s
BabyUniversity.com › Forums › Ages & Stages › Terrific "T"s › My kid is a brat!