Plus-size and TTC

I was overweight and ttc. Now, I am pregnant with my second child. Your size is really no one's business. I'm sorry these are getting you down. Obviously, you know more about being ttc than they do.

Besides ttc can take up to a year even in ideal conditions at your ideal weight. I read in another post that your dh is away a lot with his work. I think that has a lot more to do with it than weight.

Some people have no manners.

I can honestly say that no one ever said that to me when my DH and I were trying to conceive our first child. It took us two years, and we were considered infertile. Thankfully, none of our doctors ever mentioned my weight as a factor, and as it turns out, it wasn't.
My obstetrician told me a couple of years ago that I might want to try losing some weight before we TTC again because it would make for a more comfortable pregnancy, but he never did and never has made it an issue.
How long have you been TTC? If you are over 30 and it's been six months or more, and your doctor is still saying to lose weight, I would find a new doctor. If you are under 30 and it's been over a year, I would find a new doctor.
As infuriating as it can be listening to this cr@p, I would save the smart@ss comments and just find a new doctor. Not that I am at all opposed to smart@ss comments, don't get me wrong. I just don't think saying anything would do any good.
I wish you the best in TTC!

Oh, and I meant to add that this time we conceived without fertility treatments, and we were not trying to get pregnant. (We weren't using any birth control either, but given our history, we didn't see any need). AND I was heavier than I had ever been.
I think it's just easy for some doctors to use weight as an excuse. I am not saying that extra pounds don't cause problems, but I think it's overused.

When I got pregnant with my son nearly 7 years ago, I was about 80 pounds over weight. I have since dropped nearly 30 pounds, and haven't had another child yet (multiple miscarriages). While I've been trying to eat more healthy and get some exercise, I'm not focusing on my weight anymore.

The good part is I get to make all the super skinny people jealous because I gained nothing while pregnant. Of course, I had a lot of reserves to work with.

Good luck to you!

I was overweight when I got pregnant with my son. I was between 260 and 270 (I’m 6 ft. tall). Nobody ever said anything about my weight. I have never been told that my weight was an issue. Other than morning sickness, which is just natural, I never had any issues with my pregnancy. I actually didn’t gain much weight at all and ate a lot healthier when I was pregnant. I had a little trouble with the stairs and getting out of breath right at the end, but I think everybody gets that.

At my last annual appointment, I told my doctor I’d like to have another one (I’ve been off the pill for almost 2 years, but the timing just never has presented itself at the right time for things to work out, if you know what I mean. I work days, DH works nights, 4 year old who likes our bed better than his, and so on…) My doctor told me that as long as my organs were working right on the inside (I’m ovulating and having periods on my own), that was what mattered. Just needed to work on the timing. He has never said anything about my weight. I do know that if I lost a little or got more exercise, I’d feel better and be healthier. As long as you don’t have other health issues, I don’t think weight is really an issue.

If I get comments from other people, I just blow them off. Sometimes it's hard to do. ((Just ask to see their medical degree—that’ll tick them off—hee hee)). I know I'm overweight. You don't have to remind me. In my experience, most of the people that make the comments have weight issues far worse than mine. Or they may not have weight issues, but they’ve got other personal issues, and if they feel bad about themselves, they just want to make everybody else feel bad and bring them down to their level. It still doesn’t make it any easier.

I have to say I was 240lbs when I got PG with my first, 250lbs with the second, and 268 with the third. My first was a surprise, and concieved while using a condom. It took 3 months to concieve my second(after a miscarriage). I don't think the weight it's self is the cause for fertility issues, but I know that the side effects...diabetes, hypertention,etc..... can be. If you are fairly regular and ovulating each month you have no less chance the any skinny women do of concieving. If you are having other issues that may be related to your weight then that could be why a doctor would want you to try to lose weight....to put an end to any side effects that cause infertility. As for other people (non-medical) telling you you need to lose weight I'd just tell them to stick it where the sun don't shine.

It's just wrong that people make comments to you about your weight. Sorry people have to be so insensitive

I've had those comments.. i work as a cashier at a grocery store and it is amazing what people who don't know you at all know about everything to do with your life.

if they are little enough people to make the comments then their comments are little enough to be tossed where they belong, in the trash.

i was around 280 when i concieved, and not once has my dr said anything about losing weight.

Sweetie I would so look for another doctor. One that makes you feel comfortable. Glad you are here and alot of us here can relate with you.