I'm really agitated, and i need to vent to someone else besides my husband. So from previous posts (in pregnancy section) i've mentioned how my parents seem to be coming around and accepting our marriage and our pregnancy...
now i got to thinking... im SO frustrated bc ALL my life, i've had to drop everything and anything for my parents when they wanted it. for instance, in college, they [parents] would come visit me on campus without planning it with me and expected me to not be busy and have all the time in the world for them. so when i wasnt available when they arrived, i was the one to blame and i became the "bad daughter".
now that im married and pregnant (even though hub and i DID elope without anyone knowing), they STILL came to canada, WITHOUT informing us and expected us to be NOT busy. puhlease, im always busy planning for this baby and our upcoming move.
and thats not it... they emailed me saying they are still not happy and that they do think husband is a good guy, BUT we have to have a 2nd wedding and they chose the date: Aug 25th or 26th of THIS year. NOT HAPPENING. im so sick of them making me feel guilty for things that are small or stupid, im sick of them having this grip on my life.
husband would rather if my parents were not going to be involved in our lives (due to past abuse my parents gave me...) but nevertheless, he understands that they are family and family is always going to be family. my MIL thinks my parents are being childish and think that this wedding is the only way they will continue to accept this marriage.
i'm so sick of getting acceptance or "no's" from my parents. im 20 yrs old, married and about to be a mommy. cant i make my own decisions?
i dont know what to do.. but its totally stressing me out and my husband out...
now i got to thinking... im SO frustrated bc ALL my life, i've had to drop everything and anything for my parents when they wanted it. for instance, in college, they [parents] would come visit me on campus without planning it with me and expected me to not be busy and have all the time in the world for them. so when i wasnt available when they arrived, i was the one to blame and i became the "bad daughter".
now that im married and pregnant (even though hub and i DID elope without anyone knowing), they STILL came to canada, WITHOUT informing us and expected us to be NOT busy. puhlease, im always busy planning for this baby and our upcoming move.
and thats not it... they emailed me saying they are still not happy and that they do think husband is a good guy, BUT we have to have a 2nd wedding and they chose the date: Aug 25th or 26th of THIS year. NOT HAPPENING. im so sick of them making me feel guilty for things that are small or stupid, im sick of them having this grip on my life.
husband would rather if my parents were not going to be involved in our lives (due to past abuse my parents gave me...) but nevertheless, he understands that they are family and family is always going to be family. my MIL thinks my parents are being childish and think that this wedding is the only way they will continue to accept this marriage.
i'm so sick of getting acceptance or "no's" from my parents. im 20 yrs old, married and about to be a mommy. cant i make my own decisions?
i dont know what to do.. but its totally stressing me out and my husband out...
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to you and your hubby. Sounds like you have a battle brewing with your folks.
Oh man.... they MUST be insane to think that's appropriate. Nip it in the bud before it gets any worse. 
