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Inlaws and outlaws who would take your kids?

post #1 of 16
8/18/06 at 10:59am
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God forbid anything would happen to us... Who would you have raise your kids.

DH and I are so torn on this. I wouldn't at all want my SIL neither does DH. I would want my brother but DH doesn't want to give him that burden. He think that Brittanys god father who lives in OHIO and is his Uncle should do it. I have reserves on this.

What are your plans and are they documented somewhere?
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post #2 of 16
8/18/06 at 11:02am
Either my IL's or parents would take them. We have discussed it with them but haven't put anything in writing yet. Need to get on that!
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post #3 of 16
8/18/06 at 11:03am
It is highly debated in our household. Cause while we have family members that are good - they are not in a position financially to take care of the girls (Although if we both died they would get our house and a bunch of $$) and then there is the fact we don't entirely trust everyone who "could" take the girls.


So yes we have it determined and yes we have it documented but no I dont necessarly agree with it.
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post #4 of 16
8/18/06 at 11:21am
My SIL and her family would take the boys. Both our families already know the plan, but we need to put it in writing.
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post #5 of 16
8/18/06 at 11:46am
My bil and his wife in Hawaii agreed to this when dd was born. Now, we just need to get it in writing.
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post #6 of 16
8/18/06 at 1:31pm
This is something DH and I have never really made a final decision on. We talked about it one time, but nothing 100%. I know I wouldn't want my kids taken from the city they live in to live with DH's side of the family. I would prefer they stay in their home and have one of my sisters care for them. But it's something that we really need to work on getting done and settled. I want it to be legal so no one can fight it. I know my family would let the kids visit any family memeber my side his side. I just don't see that with his family. Plus like I said both is sister and his mom live in different towns. We better get working on this.
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post #7 of 16
8/18/06 at 1:33pm
In our will our kids are to go to my Sister who live in PA.
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post #8 of 16
8/18/06 at 1:39pm
Our kids will go to my SIL. They have two boys that are a little older, and she adores kids. I hope it never happens, though, because with my family being in Germany, I doubt the connection will be held, even though I know my SIL would try. All this besides the point that I want to take care of my kids.
We put that in writing after Jerome was born, and it includes all subsequent children.
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post #9 of 16
8/18/06 at 1:56pm
My parents if they could. If not, my oldest brother. Nobody on Rob's side will ever have custody of my children!
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post #10 of 16
8/18/06 at 3:27pm
Mike and I are talking about this right now. We both have lots of family, and they are all relatively close in the area too. We will definitly have it finalized before or shortly after the baby is born. It will be in writing because I wouldn't want any confusion or problems. Money is definitly not a deciding factor in it because if something happened the family that took Gabe and any other kids we had would be taken care of. Its such a tough decision to make.
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post #11 of 16
8/18/06 at 3:51pm
We will not be leaving the kids with our parents at all. They would be left with Richs brother Darrena and SIL Barb.
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post #12 of 16
8/18/06 at 3:52pm
Does anyone NOT have their kids going to a relative? A LONG time friend or anything? I'm just curious cause I know one of my friends has her kids going to a friend of hers who she's known since 1st grade. I'm wondering how unusual that is.
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post #13 of 16
8/18/06 at 3:57pm
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Actually my SIL has hers going to friends of theirs.

I am still up in the air about mine.
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post #14 of 16
8/18/06 at 4:26pm
My kids will go to my best friend and her husband. We have been best friends since we were 8 and my parents are in their 70's and couldn't do it. There is no way in Hell, my inlaws go near them. And yep, all of it is in the will.
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post #15 of 16
8/18/06 at 6:29pm
We want Emily to go to my best friend and her husband. She and I are like sisters, and have been friends since we were 6 years old. We discussed it with them, and I am hoping nothing will change once we have Travis.
It's not that I don't trust my sister, but she lives in California, and Emily's life is here. We don't want Kyle's brother getting Emily. My mom couldn't do it, and MIL would do it, but it's too much for her and she's 64 anyway. What are the realistic chances of her living until both of my kids are grown?
If Steph and her DH won't do it, then we will probably talk to Kyle's cousin and her DH. They already have three kids and struggle financially, but we would not leave them hanging in that area, and she is the kind of person who truly could raise five or six kids with ease.
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post #16 of 16
8/18/06 at 10:10pm
Our kids will go to my brother and SIL. We have to put it in writing though. They are godparents to the Twins as well.
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